The Self Love Revolution
Lu, a 53-year-old recovering people-pleaser, hosts this empowering podcast aimed at helping women build confidence and self-love. Drawing from her own experiences with marriage, menopause, bereavement, divorce, and emigration, she offers guidance on stepping out of comfort zones. The show is a guide to embracing oneself, with a focus on personal growth and resilience.
Episodes
Living glamorously with Julia Clancey & Juju Waters
I cannot believe it's the last episode of season two! I've had so many incredibly inspiring conversations this series - please do listen back if you've missed any. We've done episodes on motherhood, self-sabotage, toxicity and perfectionism.I'm leaving you with a whole damn episode on how to add more glamour to your life. Joining me is the amazing designer Julia Clancey and entertainer Juju Waters
How to have better sex with Reed Amber! We also talk fetishes, kinks, open relationships, sex work + selling your feet on OnlyFans!
SPICY EPISDE ALERT! Warning: Do not listen to this episode with children around.This episode is all about how to ever have better sex. I'm talking to the incredible sex educator and co-host of the podcast Come Curious, Reed Amber. We talk about communication, love languages, jealousy and trying something new. I also ask Reed about her incredible journey into sex work, ethical porn, fetishes and ki
It’s never too late: Finding fitness in mid-life with Kate Rowe-Ham & Cordelia Esson
This episode is for you if you need to get your ass moving!I wasn't always fit. I dabbled in fitness in my twenties, but only to get skinny. It wasn't until mid-life when I wanted to get stronger, did things change for me. But don't get me wrong, getting started can feel overwhelming! But if there's one gift you can give yourself, it's the time to move your body. To find our how the heck we can ge
How to be enough with Sophie Tea & Melanie Rickey
Am I enough?Am I doing enough? Am I wifeing enough? Am I parenting enough? Am I working enough?Being a human is exhausting. We're always measuring ourselves against an impossible measuring stick. But who decides what's enough? Today's episode was inspired by the incredible Melanie Rickey, a journalist and podcaster who is on a mission to reframe enoughness. Also joining us is the extraordinary art
Is this normal!? Mental health debunked with Claire Goodwin-Fee
While it's amazing there are lot more conversations about mental health going on, self-diagnosis on social media is rife. It can feel all very overwhelming. Life is complicated, but what is normal? At what stage does my worry become an anxiety disorder, or low moods depression? Where do we ask for help? How does therapy work? To answer all these questions is my good friend Claire Goodwin-Fee, who
Finding yourself after the motherhood wilderness with Mama Still Got It, Louise Boyce
Motherhood has been the wildest ride of my life (pardon the pun), but how do you navigate this time without losing your identity? In this episode I'm joined by the amazing Mama Still Got It, Louise Boyce, as we share our most isolating, heartbreaking, embarrassing and hilarious moments of motherhood - and our advice on how to find yourself after the motherhood wilderness. Find Louise here: https:/
Living with loss with Donna Ashworth & Lalitaa Suglani
Grief isn't just about the loss of a loved one. It's a deep feeling of sorrow, and we grieve many things in life: the end of a relationship, chapters of our life that have passed, friendships that have come and gone, our children as they leave home. Does time heal all wounds? How do you move on when grief is taking you down? I'm joined by the incredible poet Donna Ashworth and psychologist Dr Lali
Breaking free from toxicity with Josh Connelly
TW: This episode discusses suicide.I know toxic is a word that's often batted about on social media, but in this episode we're looking at what toxicity really means and how you can tell whether you have a toxic relationship in your life: romantic, parental or friendship. I'm joined by the incredible Josh Connolly, a resilience coach who raises awareness around addiction recovery and dysfunctional
Getting out the midlife funk: How to get your mojo back with Nina Ambrose from Rants and Big Pants
From time to time, we all lose our mojo. There are times you just can't see the sunshine. But as women, we're used to spinning and changing and this episode is all about helping you get out of that funk. I'm joined by the incredible Nina Ambrose, one half of rants and big bants, to share how she picks herself back up from rolling in the deep.Find Nina here: https://www.instagram.com/rantsandbigpan
Stop self-sabotage with Naz El-Mariesh & Sara Jane Maxwell
Why do so many women talk to ourselves like sh*t? Why do we repeat self-destructive behaviour? I've been lucky enough to meet hundreds of women over the last few years and one thing we all have in common: we get in our own way. We find it hard to say no. We fear failure and insist on comparing ourselves to others. Today I am finding out how we can all stop c*ckblocking ourselves and finally stop t
Dismantling perfect with Anna Mathur
For most of my life, I've tried to be perfect. The perfect wife. The perfect mother. The perfect friend. I wondered for years: where did these high standards come from? I have since realised that trying to be perfect will make for a very long, disappointing life. The Self Love Revolution is all about dispelling that myth and letting it go. This week I'm joined by bestselling author and psychothera
Join the zero f**ks club! Quit caring what others think with Cheryl the Queen & Jay Beech
Hello and welcome back to the Self Love Revolution, baby! I'm beyond excited to bring you season two, and we're starting with a bang. As one of the founding members of the zero f**ks club, I've been on a journey of learning how to care less what people think. This fear can rule our lives and hold us back from being brave and living big. So for this episode, I'm joined by two of the most confident
I give myself permission to... Pick up guys and not feel guilty about a girly trip
These permission slips absolutely spoke to me! This week we're chatting about banishing the shame and stigma of being able to pick up guys and have lots of sex, and why we as women still feel guilty about leaving our partners and kids to spend time with our girlfriends. I'm joined by my good friend Jodie Cariss, who always leaves me with incredible nuggets of wisdom. She's a therapist and co-found
Why a walk could change your life
Hiking really did change my life. When I moved to Portland, I had no job and no friends. I decided to go on a hike and posted it online. The next thing I knew, I had a whole gaggle of mums join me and so Hike Squad was born. We hiked all over America. These women held me up as I processed so much of life's trauma and grief on these walks. Now, not every walk can be life-changing, but with the help
I give myself permission to... Live my gay life after living in the closet and stop having imposter syndrome
I’m on a mission to give women everywhere permission to shed their shame. Because when one woman frees herself, they free another. That’s the revolution baby. Today I’m joined by Nikki Fenix, a photographer who runs events for women to connect and heal.
How to navigate the mid-life dating wilderness
After 25 years of marriage, I've taken a lover. Dating beyond divorce is scary, but I'm loving the adventure. In this episode we're unpacking how to know when you're ready to date, dating red flags and how to uncover your values to find the perfect partner. I'm joined by two incredible guests this week, Mel Schilling, dating and relationship coach and expert on Married At First Sight and Stacey Du
I give myself permission to… Tell my friends I'm a swinger and do a stand up comedy show
I absolutely love this two permission slips. This week we're talking about banishing the shame around telling your friends that you go to sex parties and how to build the confidence to do a stand up gig. This week I'm joined by the amazing Jodie Cariss, therapist and co-founder of Self Space.
How to be alone
There's a big difference between being lonely and choosing to be alone. Two years ago, I left my husband, packed up my belongings and travelled around the US on a bright pink bus. I met hundreds of women who felt lonely - even in their relationships. Spending that time alone gave me so much strength, so I wanted to dedicate an episode on embracing the space of being alone and navigating loneliness
I give myself permission to... Be openly and unapologetically sexy and tell people to f*ck off
How difficult is it for you to be unapologetically sexy? And why do women find this such a challenge? In this week's episode I'm joined by Libby DeLana - a creative director and author of DoWalk, all about the power of daily walking - to talk about your permission slips. We're also discussing how to communicate to those who have done you wrong.
How to learn to love your body
Content warning: This episode contains discussions around eating disorders.Feeling beautiful has nothing to do with what you look like. That's easier said than done, mind you. Motherhood saw me put on three stone, and divorce saw me look gaunt with weight loss from stress. If you're struggling with learning how to love your body, you need to listen to this episode. I'm joined by Nyome Nicholas-Wil
I give myself permission to... See my fat tummy in a crop top and say yes more often
Welcome to the bonus episodes of the Self Love Revolution! I’m on a mission to give women everywhere permission to shed their shame. Each week I'll be joined by one of the wisest women I know, and we're going through some of the anonymous permission slips I've collected over the years. Because when one woman frees herself, they free another. That’s the revolution baby. Today I’m joined by Naz El M
Ageing disgracefully
I refuse to become invisible as I age. Getting older is challenging, but I have found a power and strength in ageing; I didn't anticipate my 50s being my bad bitch era. This episode is going to show you that you ain't dead yet and the best is still to come. Lynne Franks is a legendary PR and founder of the SEED Women’s Empowerment - she's also the woman who inspired the hit sitcom Absolutely Fabul
I give myself permission to… Remain angry at the b*stards that didn’t support me through my divorce and holiday by myself
Welcome to the bonus episodes of the Self Love Revolution! I’m on a mission to give women everywhere permission to shed their shame. Each week I'll be joined by one of the wisest women I know, and we're going through some of the anonymous permission slips I've collected over the years. Because when one woman frees herself, they free another. That’s the revolution baby. Today I’m joined by Jodie Ca
You can sit with us: How to make friends
Friendships are some of the most important relationships you’ll ever have in your life. As life ebbs and flows, so do friendships. A true friend for me holds you up, holds you accountable, shows up to bury the body and is your biggest cheerleader. This episode is all about navigating friendships: the toxic ones, celebrating the amazing ones and how the heck you make new ones. Joining me
I give myself permission to... Take control of the TV remote and let my light shine
Welcome to the bonus episodes of the Self Love Revolution! I’m on a mission to give women everywhere permission to shed their shame. Each week I'll be joined by one of the wisest women I know, and we're going through some of the anonymous permission slips I've collected over the years. Because when one woman frees herself, they free another. That’s the revolution baby. Today I’m joined by Nikki Fe
The power of forgiveness
What does forgiveness mean to you? You probably jump to a time where someone has done you wrong. There's no magical button that can make that hurt or anger vanish, but instead this episode is going to teach you how to forgive and move on. It's simple, but it's not easy. I'm joined by two incredible people: my dad, Frank Hillebrand and women's empowerment coach, Naz El-Mariesh.
I give myself permission to... Sunbathe topless and to give zero f*cks what others think
Welcome to the bonus episodes of the Self Love Revolution! I’m on a mission to give women everywhere permission to shed their shame. Each week I'll be joined by one of the wisest women I know, and we're going through some of the anonymous permission slips I've collected over the years. Because when one woman frees herself, they free another. That’s the revolution baby. I’m joined again by Libby D
The F Word: A guide to busting finance shame
It's not the F word I like to use - bloody finances. I've been in debt for nearly my whole adult life. I have also battled a decades-long shopping addiction: choosing trainers over the rent and ruining relationships as I go. Money shame has clouded my life and after I confessed to stealing money from work to fund my habit, I knew something had to change. Today I have two amazing finance experts jo
I give myself permission to... Quit and admit defeat and to fall in love again
Welcome to the bonus episodes of the Self Love Revolution! I’m on a mission to give women everywhere permission to shed their shame. Each week I'll be joined by one of the wisest women I know, and we're going through some of the anonymous permission slips I've collected over the years. Because when one woman frees herself, they free another. That’s the revolution baby. Today I’m joined by Naz El M
Stop getting in your own way! A guide to stepping out of your comfort zone, chasing the fear and being brave
I've learned more when I'm shit scared: it's where the magic happens. It's better to try and fail, than to play it safe. Comfort is a bloody slow death. So if you need a guidebook on how to get out of your own way, this episode is for you. This week I'm joined by Ilana Gambrill, founder of DanceBox aimed at empowering women through and movement, and Laura Belbin, the comedian known as Knee Deep in
I give myself permission to... Wank in front of my husband and fully own my past without shame
Welcome to the bonus episodes of the Self Love Revolution! I’m on a mission to give women everywhere permission to shed their shame. Each week I'll be joined by one of the wisest women I know, and we're going through some of the anonymous permission slips I've collected over the years. Because when one woman frees herself, they free another. That’s the revolution baby. Today I’m joined by Nikki Fe
The Big D, divorce: How to know when it's time to leave
On Valentine's Day, my divorce was finalised. I'd been married for nearly twenty years and separating has been one of the most brutal, soul-shifting but liberating chapters of my life. In this episode, I'm joined by two incredible guests: Jodie Cariss, therapist and co-founder of Self Space and Julia Margo, co-founder of the sex toy company Hot Octopuss. We explore what makes us stay, when is it t
I give myself permission to… Take a day off and love without consequences
Welcome to the bonus episodes of the Self Love Revolution! I’m on a mission to give women everywhere permission to shed their shame. Each week I'll be joined by one of the wisest women I know, and we're going through some of the anonymous permission slips I've collected over the years. Because when one woman frees herself, they free another. That’s the revolution baby. Today I’m joined by Libby De
How to get through the sh*t life throws your way
It's inevitable: bad things happen in life. We've all been through something. This episode won't change your circumstances or your past, but what I hope it does is inspire you to just keep going and figure out some different ways to show up for your shit. Joining me in this episode is the presenter Claira Hermet and Anna Kilpatrick, who is Not Needing New online.
I give myself permission to... Not be perfect and let go of control
Welcome to the bonus episodes of the Self Love Revolution! I’m on a mission to give women everywhere permission to shed their shame. Each week I'll be joined by one of the wisest women I know, and we're going through some of the anonymous permission slips I've collected over the years. Because when one woman frees herself, they free another. That’s the revolution baby. Today I’m joined by Naz El M
How to say no, set boundaries and have uncomfortable conversations
I was going to call this episode 'How to say f**k off better', because I thought that's what boundaries were all about. But what I learned in this episode has been an absolute GAMECHANGER for me. Joining me this week is Dr Sophie Mort, a clinical psychologist and bestselling author and Jill Lavender, founder of the London and New York meditation centres.
Is this too much? How to find the confidence to wear what the f**k you want
If you see me in the street you'd you probably do a double take. I'm a lover of bright clothes, animal print, feathers, sequins - and that's just going to the supermarket. But it's come at a cost. After realising I had a shopping addiction, I started a Non Shopping Project, where I didn't buy anything new for a year. This gave me a whole new confidence after learning to style what I already had. S
Generation Menopause: Hot flush hell or the liberation chapter?
Hot flushes and dry vaginas, weight gain and vanishing libido; the menopause gets a bad rap. But I'll let you in on a secret: it can also be the liberation years. In this episode, I'm busting menopause myths with Davina McCall and Karen Arthur, founder of Menopause Whilst Black, and we're on a mission to reclaim midlife.
Don’t die without having an orgasm
Self love isn't all about masturbation, but I couldn't resist my very first episode being about the big O. When I separated from my husband of 20 years, I moved into the spare room, bought myself a vibrator and found a whole new confidence in my body. And I couldn't believe that it took me so long to get there (pun unintended)! So this episode is your go-to guide of how to have a fan-fucking-tasti
Get ready for The Self Love Revolution - launching Monday 8th April!
Oh hi, I'm Lu. I'm a 53-year-old ray of sunshine and I’m on a mission to teach you how love your god-damn self. For most of my life I was told to simmer down and that I was too much. I spent years trying to shrink myself into everybody's expectations of me and wallowed in shame. But then in mid-life, something shifted in me and I started to feel confident for the first time in my life. This podcas
