Sideways
A podcast about addiction, recovery, and friendship.
Episodes
Metanoia
We tend to think of traumatic events and the most significant of life's challenges as unremittingly negative. But what emerges after an experience that feels as if it has destroyed us is an opportunity to rebuild.We discuss, the opportunities that present themselves when we hit the bottom.If that weren't enough, someone is assaulted with vegan mayo, Martin grateful for the opportunity to
Building self trust
What makes us lose trust in ourselves, and how can we rebuild it once it's gone?If you've lost faith in yourself as a result of addiction or any other mental health difficulty, we're here to help.There's also biscuit talk, a new snake is discovered, and all your favourites.It's good to be back. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can
Holidays in recovery
Is it safe to go on holiday when you're in early recovery? What are the risks and how can you mitigate them? This week, we address these questions, and more.We also wonder if headbanging has gone out of fashion, hear about how spreading consumables on the floor is art, and ask the question, 'what misfortune might prevent you from seeing rock band Uriah Heap?'It's our last stop
Feeling Hollow
What does a feeling of emptiness really mean? Does it indicate there's something seriously wrong, or can it be a point of punctuation and a sign you need a reset?We also discuss paper planes, whether giraffes are good at maths, and feel grateful for footballers and trees.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk
How to deliver bad news
Delivering bad news is something most of us find difficult, so you might find these tips on how to do it successfully quite useful.We also explore the dangers of having an Only Fans account if you work in education, hear about a missing giraffe, and complain about World Cup kick off times.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@grahamlandiwe
Compassion Fatigue
This week, we're talking about what happens when you allow your care for other people's emotional wellbeing to overshadow the need to take proper care of yourself.There's also a lot of clothing related content, for some reason.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.ukThanks again for listening, we real
Things to avoid saying to someone in recovery
This week we're talking about how to avoid unhelpful and disrespectful remarks to people in recovery, many of which say more about the person asking than they do about whoever happens to be the object of their enquiry.A buffalo receives a reprieve due to his resemblance to a US president, and a wheelchair user gets an unwelcome shock, almost literally.I got the title of the episode wrong in m
Social Loafing
This week, we're talking about how some of us make less effort when we think our contribution won't be noticed.A man turns up in A&E with an unexploded bomb stuck in an unusual place, we discuss strange eating habits, and Martin gets a bit annoyed both about the sound quality of his recording and the way that tunes of hymns change when he is least expecting ithttps://www.grahamlandiw
The Ick
This week we're discussing the modern dating phenomenon that involved sudden revulsion at someone with whom you had been experiencing a romantic spark. I offer some theories about why it might have more to do with you than you realise.We both remember disappointment at a fancy dress competition, reminisce about the Caroline roadshows of the 80s and, after a strong start, I disappoint again in
Hugging
This week, we're discussing the benefits of physical touch, and why it can be such a useful component of recovery and good mental health more generally.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.ukThanks again for listening, we really appreciate it.
DTD (Developmental Topographical Disorientation)
This week, we're talking about getting lost easily and how it can lead to unfair and painful levels of criticism.A woman employs a counterintuitive way to address her debilitating anxiety, and I get angry about hot cross buns.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.ukThanks again for listening, we really apprecia
Bigorexia
This week, we're talking about a less well-known form of body dysmorphia.A man wakes up coloured blue and can't understand why, and there are despicable practices at the camel pageant. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.ukThanks again for listening, we really appreciate it.
How To Live A Good LIfe
This week we're talking about the components that help us get the most from our lives.A woman becomes unbelievably wealthy when buying a cup of coffee, there's underwear that measures 'flatus', I get the ick about something I can't recall, and there's more gratitude than you can shake a stick at.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/Y
Why it's hard to escape from addiction
This week, we're trying to explain why so many people remain addicted to drink and drugs even when they can see how much damage it's doing.A professional fighter gets his hair punched off, I witness a live drug deal whilst walking home from the shops, we display a pathetic level of knowledge about American sport, and wonder if the best place to find love might be along the aisles of a su
How To be Kind
This week, we're talking about kindness, how to demonstrate more of it and what it feels like when we do.We're recording on the first day of February which reminds of of violent traditions from childhood, and Martin has a story about physical assault with an unusual weapon.We're back in our traditional roles this week which, in my case, inevitably includes a predictably poor perform
Dry January
This week, we have a look at the popular 'Dry January' campaign and consider the potential benefits and drawbacks it represents. We also discuss why long term recovery for dependent drinkers is not comparable with short-term behavioural programmes that appear to have similar aim but, in truth, diverge enormously.We also hear about a man who chose an unusual disguise after wrongly being a
Tolerance v Acceptance
This week we're discussing the difference between tolerance and acceptance.There's a drunk racoon, vaccination chat, and I am back to my usual disappointing worst in the lyric quiz.There is also a single uttering of the f-word so, if you're easily offended, you might be better off with 'The One Show'.Happy New Year.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi
Frisson
This week we're talking about expereinces that move you unexpectedly. I offer the example of a key change in a James Taylor song that moved me before realising that it doesn’t have a key change in it at all. It was the introduction of the string section at the beginning of the third verse which got me, but it's still a valid example I reckon.In other news, Martin is still struggling wit
Glimmers
This week, we're discussing an effective antidote to anything that triggers feelings of anxiety, stress, overwhelm or sadness.Martin suggests some world records we can have a crack at, and there's some hygiene talk that involves dangerous soap and whether it's right to multitask whilst taking a shower.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can em
SAD - Seasonal Affective Disorder
This week we're talking about the way the shift in seasons and the changing of the clocks is a point in the year when many of us find our emotional resilience severely tested.In other news, a bold double bluff doesn't work out, there are alarming developments on the toothpaste front, and we present a gratitude sandwich.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.c
Overexplaining
This week we're talking about the tendency to explain too much, a habit that emerges from insecurity in the explainer and often has little to do with the target of the explanation.A plane is grounded as a result of flatulence, there's a squirrel on wheels, Martin frightens small children, and we debate the wisdom of letting a delivery driver use your toilet.https://www.grahamlandiwellbei
Body Doubling
This week we're talking about an effective way of keeping yourself on track or reducing feelings of overwhelm when you're facing practical and/or emotional challenges.We also feel grateful for seasonal joy and being fed. There's some other nonsense too but I can't remember what it was about and I have a client in 10 minutes so I don't have time to check, and I've just
Shunishment
We're back!This week, we're having a conversation about 'shunishment' which might be a word you've never heard of that describes manipulative and controlling behaviour in a relationship.There's a new quiz, we're both surprisingly grateful for getting older, and some monkeys display questionable behaviour involving fermented fruit.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.
Finding the right sponsor
This week we're discussing the red flags you might come across when you work with a sponsor in one of the fellowships and what you can do about it if it happens.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.ukThanks again for listening, we really appreciate it.
Curiosity
This week, we're talking about why curiosity is important and how we, sometimes inadvertently, prevent ourselves from exercising it.We hear about famous people carved from vegetables, and a man gives police an unwelcome gift when they put him under arrest.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.ukThanks again for
How To Remember What You Learn
This week, we're talking about how we forget most of what we learn and consider ways of improving retention.Some friends, having messed with hallucinogens, mistakenly believe their companion to have died, and an elephant pops into a shop for some snacks.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.ukThanks again for
Overthinking
This week, we're talking about how we get in our own way by making things too complicated and failing to establish helpful strategies for getting stuff done.I nearly burn myself alive with a BBQ, we ponder on what might make it worth being airlifted off a mountain (twice), and we're grateful for the same thing for different reasons.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlan
Self-nudging
This week, we're talking about how to avoid putting barriers up to prevent our own progress and how small incremental improvements add up to a lot.There's also a man who gets shot by his dog, and gratitude for longevity and pizza ovens.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.ukThanks again for listening, we
Social Thinning
This week, we're talking about the early developmental experiences that might have a significant impact on your ability to establish and sustain relationships.There's also a cautionary tale about carrying glazed windows on your head down Mill Street.Apologies if the episode sounds a bit rough around the edges but we recorded it late, I'm trying to upload it before my first client, a
Dealing with criticism
This week, we discuss the perils of slipping on fruit, fear of vending machines, and the joy of greenhouses and short trousers.If that weren't enough, we devote the more serious segment of the episode to a discussion on ways to deal with destructive criticism and the behaviours that can replace it toward much happier outcomes.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack
Meaning v Purpose
This week Martin has some wisdom related to the classic film, 'Citizen Kane'.It's the first episode we've recorded while sitting in the same room for five years and, frankly, it was disturbing.There's all the usual fun and frolics including the prematurely announced death of a Bulgarian footballer.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You
Dealing with other peoples opinions
This week we're talking about how to keep your composure when someone tells you that Charlie Chaplin films are funny.A mother steals ice cream from her child, who then gets the police involved, and a snake takes part in a heist and slithers off with some CBD oil.Basically, it's more of the usual fare and, quite honestly, you'd be disappointed if it wasn't.https://www.grahamland
Improving memory
This week we're talking about ways of boosting your brain so that you don't find it as hard to remember who had the best selling single in 1974 (Mud - Tiger Feet) and you can manage to churn out a podcast on a Sunday afternoon.We also discuss the merits of a good apple, reminisce about reading maps, and I'm grateful for plasters.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahaml
Body Clock
This week, we're investigating the circadian rhythm, cyber-farting, big bags of flour, and the joy of early morning light.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.ukThanks again for listening, we really appreciate it.
Body Language
This week, we're talking about how much of our communication relies on what we do with our bodies.There's all the usual guff but I can't be more specific than that because I'm in a rush.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.ukThanks again for listening, we really appreciate it.
Alexithymia
This week we're discussing a neuropsychological condition that prevents individuals from expressing and identifying emotions.We wonder why so many sports have what appears to be an unnecessary dress code, and wonder whether organisers had their priorities right when they allowed smoking and drinking in their events during the 80s whilst insisting the players wore specific clothing.There'
Sentimental value
This week, we're discussing the things that make us feel wistful and sentimental, even though they often have no intrinsic value other than the sentiment we attach to them.Martin's discovery of a business selling diapers for festival goers makes us think about the difficulties of relieving yourself in a crowd. A man takes his pet turkey for a run, and I do appallingly on our weekly quiz.
Living Alone
This week, we're discussing the benefits of living alone, especially for those in early recovery.Over a cup of masala chai (me) we also cover shopping from bed (Martin), fake parades, how to stack the dishwasher, and whether it's OK to hide from carol singers.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.ukThanks
Envy
This week, we're discussing the unattractive emotion we feel when we covet something we see in someone else.There's also chat on modern art, speed dating, having a cockroach named after you, and the wisdom of putting a chocolate orange in a pie.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.ukThanks again for liste
Core Values
This week we're discussing how we develop the core beliefs and values that provide direction for the way we live our lives, and consider the experiences that cause them to shift over time.Martin celebrates another sobriety anniversary, we wonder about the merits of taking a bath with some apples, and whether it's OK to keep a big lottery win to yourself.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.c
Facial Leakage
This week we're discussing how your face conveys messages you'd sometimes rather it didn't.Martin reveals a curmudgeonly attitude toward the clocks changing, there's a case of mistaken identity involving the Northern Lights, and I get woken by a bump in the night.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbein
JOMO
This week, we're discussing the joy that can come from refusing invitations and staying home to look after yourself by doing whatever makes you feel good.A man sees a member of the royal family moonlighting in a UFO, we agree that putting dogs in clothes is bad behaviour, and find gratitude in the radio and attending a funeral.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substa
Changing Your Mind
We're back.This week, along with the usual inane chat, we're discussing why we might change our minds and differentiating between the healthy and not-so-healthy reasons for doing so.There's unrest at a Chinese zoo, a new quiz that I do as badly at as the last one, and we disagree over petty theft.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email u
Toxic Positivity
This week, for our final episode before a summer break, we're talking about how we block our own or others' genuine feelings so that we don't have to face the reality of our emotions.We'll be back in September. Have a good summer (or winter, depending on where you are in the world)https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@g
Breadcrumbing
This week we're discussing 'breadcrumbing', a close relation of 'ghosting'. A man finds himself in the midst of an earthquake at a most inopportune time, and Martin has some wonderful news which is not overshadowed by my gratitude for a handful of radishes.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.
Anhedonia
This week we're talking about our personal experiences of addiction and depression and the anhedonia that accompanied them.We also hear about a woman who can tell the outcome of sporting events simply by throwing asparagus into the air.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.ukThanks again for listening, we reall
Personal Space
This week, we're talking about the importance of appropriate personal space.We also cover urinal etiquette and good manners when driving through a traffic contraflow.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.ukThanks again for listening, we really appreciate it.
Shyness
This week we're talking about dealing with shyness. Are you born like it? How does it differ from introversion and social anxiety? Can you do anything about it?We also discuss attitudes to small talk and feel grateful for self-discipline and passing places on narrow country lanes.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbe
Burnout
This week, we're talking about burnout. Why does it happen and what can we do to prevent it?Martin has news of World War 3, we wonder about post-apocalyptic football, and I become frustrated at next door's cats using my raised beds as a toilet.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.ukThanks again for listen
Imposter Syndrome
This week we're talking about why we sometimes feel out of our depth without much evidence in support.I do some research on mangoes, a man wears inappropriate footwear that causes him no end of problems while metal detecting, and Martin experiences some auditory recall for which he is grateful.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@gra
Being Authentic
This week we're talking about the importance of being your true self, whoever that is.Neither of us bothers to look out for the Northern Lights but we both feel enthusiastic about the idea of cuddling a cow. Martin remembers being shamed for coming last and we wonder if it’s ever OK to cheat on a test.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at
All or Nothing Thinking
This week we're talking about why it's unhelpful to always think about things in terms of good and bad without anything in betweenA man has an unusual emotional support animal stolen, we debate the merit of putting vegetables in cakes, and Martin is grateful for big parking spaces.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@grahamland
Psychological Body Armour
This week, we're talking about how we prepare ourselves emotionally for challenging situations.We hear about a man who goes to great lengths to avoid getting wet, I upset the Irish with my poor attempt at an accent, and Martin feels grateful for an excited hug.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.ukThanks agai
You Are What You Wear
This week we're talking about what your clothes say about you and the way that our emotional state might influence what we choose to wear.A woman tries to take a bank loan for a corpse, we reminisce about the perils of riding a bike with flared trousers, and we discuss the tricky topic of wearing pyjamas in the supermarket.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.co
Silence
This week we're discussing the benefits of silence.Martin gets upset about a suggestion that it's OK to laugh at a funeral, I feel grateful for window cleaners, and there's controversy over the addition of a keyboard player to our dead supergroup.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.ukThanks again f
Man Up
This week, we're discussing the way that dismissing someone's legitimate emotions as a sign of weakness or lack of desirable masculinity is hugely destructive.A coat is mistaken for a leopard, we decide that using someone else's bin without permission is a violation of privacy, and there's a cautionary tale if you happen to be a rock drummer.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.
Building Confidence in Recovery
This week we're talking about ways to bolster your confidence so that you can occupy your rightful place in the world with assertiveness and comfort.Someone mistakes a hat for a hedgehog, I impersonate a man of the cloth, and we debate the wisdom of taking a cobra to a party and guzzling its venom for kicks.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email
Losing Focus
This week we're talking about why we have trouble maintaining focus, what it might say about us and how to manage it better.Martin recalls being waterboarded at the hairdresser and tells us which station he'd choose if he were to name himself after one. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.ukThanks again
False Memory
This week we're talking about the things we've forgotten that we think we remember even though what we come up with might be a complete fabrication.A goat is arrested for the theft of a Mazda 323, some Reading Rock Festival pizza rots Martin's jeans, and I am attacked by malware.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@grahaml
Confirmation Bias
This week we’re talking about how we can become experts at looking for evidence in support of beliefs we already hold, and the ways it can be destructive.We also hear about a lady who took her dead hamster on the trip of a lifetime and make a useful addition to our posthumous supergroup.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@grahamlandiwell
Platitudes
This week, I've been in Scotland and so we recorded in a rush without any time to do a proper edit. It's a mark of our "professionalism" that you probably won't tell a difference between this and our other episodes.We're chatting about platitudes and why they are so unhelpful. There's also all the usual guff. https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahaml
Exaggeration
This week we're talking about why people feel the need to embellish the truth and how it often comes from a place of low self-confidence.We wonder what it would be like to wake up at your own funeral, hear about animals travelling in underwear, and see the insufferable liar, Jay from The Inbetweeners, in a whole new light.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.co
Purpose
This week we're talking about something simple, the meaning of life.We hear a remarkable excuse for illegal possession of drugs, Martin gets mistaken for a pensioner, we feel grateful for bowel cancer screening, and I recall almost being crushed under a Land Rover.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.ukThanks
Managing Your Inner Dialogue
This week we're discussing the ways we can harness our inevitable self-talk.Martin does a survey on anchovies, and a pigeon is held captive for eight months on suspicion of espionage.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.ukThanks again for listening, we really appreciate it.
Being Let Down
This week, we're talking about why it hurts when someone lets us down, how we can avoid it happening, and what to do if it does.Other than that, we hear about how speedy cashiers can cause mental health crises, whether or not it's important to be able to shuffle a deck of cards, and I find out what Martin has in his larder.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.subst
Expert Mindset
This week we're discussing thinking you know everything already and how that expert mindset can often limit your opportunities to grow intellectually and emotionally.Martin has a story about confusing an owl with a mushroom, a drunken man gets arrested for impersonating a ghost, and we ponder on the possibility that all the great philosophers were borne out of a time when there wasn't an
Beginner's Mindset
This week we're talking about the benefits of going into situations without assuming any prior knowledge, and how even if you're a relative expert, keeping an open mind and believing you can always learn something new is the way to sustainable and enjoyable personal growth.Martin tells a harrowing tale about an exploding toilet which puts him in mind of a toilet disaster all of his own.
Adaptability
This week we’re talking about why it’s important to be adaptable in recovery and life generally.To illustrate our ability to adapt to random subjects we find time for Barry White, an art exhibition for dogs, pair Socrates and Einstein in an unlikely midfield three with Oprah Winfrey, and discuss our feelings about ironing.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You
Genetics In Addiction
This week we’re talking about some of the biological and genetic factors that might make problems with addiction more likely. Neither of us claims to be experts in this area so you needn’t worry that we might bog you down in difficult-to-understand science.To lighten the mood we hear about Freddie Mercury appearing in a teaspoon, the perils of solo fishing trips, getting chocolate stuck to bare fl
Festive Anxiety
This week, if you’re wondering why you’d been feeling so stressed and anxious about the festive period that we’ve just hauled our way through, we might have some of the answers for you.Martin has a cold and tries to bring us all down to his level of misery with a particularly unseasonal tale about inappropriate gifting.We express gratitude for being alive with our families, and I catastrophically
Memory Loss
This week we’re talking about the impact too much alcohol can have on your memory.Martin introduces me to the concept of moon bathing, we hear about a worrying danger of food deliveries, ponder on the merits of being good at giving speeches, and consider writing and sharing eulogies for one another whilst we’re still alive to hear them.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.sub
Interventions 2
This week, we inadvertently select a topic we covered earlier in the year and then worried that we might have contradicted ourselves within the space of six months. Intervention is clearly an important topic on which we have a lot to sayIn addition, we think about the best way to catch a kangaroo, show gratitude for video calls and reliable cars, discuss the origin of surnames, and try to name th
Being An Empath
This week we’re talking about what happens when you don’t or can’t seem to limit the empathy you feel for others. We discuss, where it originates, why it can be a problem and what you can do about it.We share our fond memories of Shane MacGowan, debate the connection between creativity and alcohol, hear about some horrifying places where spiders laid their eggs, and I get a bit worked up about wea
Admiration
This week we’re talking about why we sometimes find it hard to celebrate other people’s success and how helpful it is to do so.We wonder how God feels about hot drinks in church, discover the names of two Osmond siblings we didn't know existed, reminisce about Martin’s affection for chocolate buttons, and we select our favourite poems.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi
Abundance Mindset
This week, after our discussion last time about scarcity mindset, we're balancing things out with some thoughts about why an abundance mindset is far preferable.In addition, we discuss the art of telling jokes, "big up" the value of freezers and leaf blowers, and there's exciting news for anyone saddened by the demise of the "Caramac" bar.https://www.grahamlandiwellbe
Scarcity Mindset
This week we're talking about the negative impacts of worrying that you won't have enough, regardless of whether you're right or not.Martin waxes lyrical about prescription apps, and I extol the virtues of a squirrel.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@grahamlandiwellbeing.co.ukThanks again for listening, we really appreci
Classical Music
This week we're talking about the physical, emotional and mental benefits of listening to classical music.Martin tells us about a surprising and inappropriate donation to a charity shop, and we discuss canoeing, and growing up in a house without central heating. I then erroneously ascribe "The Young Person's Guide To The Orchestra" before knocking one out of the park in the w
Haunted By The Past
This week, having recently spoken about anxiety, an emotion that lives in the future, we're turning our attention to the ways we become burdened by the past.I can't recall any famous hijacks, we pay tribute to Matthew Perry, who we focused on in one of our very early episodes, and we talk rituals and wet shaving.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You
Hiding In Plain Sight
This week we're talking about some of the reasons alcohol is treated differently in society from other drugs.I get antsy about technology updates, Martin has news about "Tree Of The Year", we discover we know very little about communion wine, and debate the value of parallel parking.https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/You can email us at info@grah
Anxiety
This week we're talking about how to manage anxiety and the way in which almost everything that works best is counterintuitive.Martin leaves his dartboard outside, and celebrates a day just for him. We make arrangements for handling a bear attack and ask, "Should apples be stored in the fridge?" (of course not).https://www.grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/https://grahamlandi.substack.com/
