Are We Into This? with Cosmopolitan
Join Millie Court and Clare Stephenson each week as they tackle one big, chaotic, culturally-relevant question, from the trivial to the existential. With the help of Cosmopolitan cover stars, relationship experts, and listeners, they explore topics like red flags, dating profile crimes, and friendship with exes. Expect laughs, insights, and no definitive answers.
Episodes
Can a situationship ever become a relationship?
You’ve been dating for months – you’ve met their friends, spent whole weekends together, even celebrated birthdays. But it’s still just ‘casual’... What do you do? Do you hold out in case things progress, or quit this relationship purgatory and accept that once a situationship, always a situationship?
This week, Millie and Clare are debating this exact scenario, asking: Can a slow-start situatio
Zara McDermott asks: Are you expecting too much from your friends?
This week’s question comes from our October digital cover star, Zara McDermott! The presenter and former Love Islander is asking about something she admits she’s been struggling with herself: as we all get older and our lives get busier, what expectations should we have of our friends?
Can you realistically expect an immediate text back? Is it fair to be annoyed if they can’t make every single bi
How much PDA is too much PDA?
Are you all for snogging your date’s face off in public, or does so much as a peck make you cringe with embarrassment?
Public displays of affection have always been controversial, but now we live under the constant threat of being filmed and plastered across the world’s FYPs, PDA has become even more of a hot button topic — and, for some, something to be avoided at all costs.
And yet, whether yo
Is watching porn cheating?
What would you consider to be cheating today? The physical betrayals, sure, but what about liking other people’s thirst traps? Subscribing to an OnlyFans creator? Sexting with an AI chatbot?
At a time when we can connect with more people in more ways than ever, it’s arguably never been easier to keep secrets, cheat, or even just have a little flirtation. So, if you’re finding it hard to trust in
GK Barry asks: How do you have the ‘what are we’ chat?
The very hilarious GK Barry is our question-asker this week — and she’s asking Millie and Clare about a conversation we all dread: the ‘what are we’ chat.
Yep, we’re discussing how you go about defining a relationship, and when is the ‘right’ time to do it. No one wants to get stuck in a perpetual situationship, but how soon is too soon for the talk? How can you broach it? And how can you handle
How much sex is ‘normal’ in a relationship?
Whether we’re adapting to a post-honeymoon stage dip in our sex lives or going through a bit of a dry spell, most of us, at one point or another, have likely been hyperaware of how much sex we’re having with our partners — and even fretted over whether it’s ‘enough’.
But how much sex is ‘normal’ in relationships? Is there even such a thing as a ‘normal’ amount of sex? (Spoiler: no!) Millie and Cl
Is it ever okay to check your partner’s phone?
Be honest… have you ever sneakily gone through your partner’s phone? What did you find? How did you feel after? Did you regret it, or were you vindicated?
Whatever the reason for it, loads of us have been guilty of having a cheeky little look at our partner’s phone. But, as one reader is asking Millie and Clare this week, is this kind of snooping ever really justified?
It’s a juicy topic —
The Girls Bathroom ask: Can you ever trust a cheater?
Sophia and Cinzia from The Girls Bathroom podcast are this week’s question-askers! And they want to know: can you ever really trust someone who’s cheated before? Or is it true that once a cheater, always a cheater?
Millie and Clare unpack it all and from every angle — from dating someone who’s cheated in past relationships to being the person they cheat with to recovering from infidelity in
Are you parenting your partner?
Do all the house chores fall to you? Are you the one who books flights, buys birthday cards, or remembers to renew the car insurance? In short: do you feel like you’re parenting your partner?
Well, you’re not alone — this week, one reader is asking Millie and Clare what to do when you’re sick and tired of raising your significant other.
If this sounds familiar, we want to hear from you! Are you
Love Island’s Jasmine: Does ‘treat them mean, keep them keen’ actually work?
Love Island season 13 runner-up Jasmine G Müller is our question-asker of the week! In the villa this summer, Jasmine became a fan fave for speaking her mind and putting the boys in their place.
When strong women assert themselves like this, they can often be dubbed ‘intimidating’, ‘mean’, or ‘off-putting’ (@ Aidan) – but, as the age-old trope goes, ‘treat them mean, keep them keen’, right? So, t
Your friends hate your partner. Should you listen?
Your friend is criticising your partner or just flat out dislikes them… should you listen? Should they listen if you don’t like theirs?
Millie and Clare get into all this and more, with a little surprise appearance from one of Millie’s closest friends, KISS Breakfast host Chloe Burrows.
Let us know what you think in comments, reviews, and over on socials @CosmopolitanUK: is honesty always the be
Olivia Attwood asks: is ‘don’t settle’ just a toxic ideal?
Olivia Attwood is our August digital cover star — and this week’s question-asker! Off the back of a big break-up, the presenter, podcast host, and Love Island alum is asking Millie and Clare whether ‘don’t settle’ is realistic or toxic relationship advice, and if the ‘perfect’ partner can ever even exist.
Read Olivia’s cover story on Cosmo here, and let us know what you think about the idea of se
Are you dating a narcissist?
At some point throughout your dating history, you’ve probably labelled an ex a ‘narcissist’, right...? Maybe they loved the sound of their voice a bit too much or had a habit of putting people down to big themselves up? Yep.
Well, you’re not alone. These days, the term is everywhere on our socials, to the point it kinda feels like all of us are becoming narcissists. And, in some ways, we
Lili Reinhart asks: can friends survive unrequited love?
ICYMI, the one and only Lili Reinhart is the cover star of the August/September issue of our print magazine, and our question-asker for this week’s episode! The actor — and star of upcoming movie The Love Hypothesis, adapted from Ali Hazelwood’s bestselling novel — wants to know: can a friendship survive if one person develops unrequited feelings for the other?
We all love a friends to lovers st
Why aren’t men making effort in dating RN?
We all know that dating is in the pits RN — we’re burned out from the apps, frustrated by convos that go nowhere, and tired of bad first dates. Too often, it feels like we’re giving a lot and getting, well, not much back.
Lately, this feels especially true for those of us who date men. You’ve only got to look at this season of Love Island to see the serious lack of effort the boys are putti
Introducing: Are We Into This? with Cosmopolitan
Welcome to our brand new sex and relationships podcast, Are We Into This? with Cosmopolitan, hosted by Love Island legend Millie Court and Cosmo’s very own Clare Stephenson. It’s your weekly dose of girl talk on the weird, wonderful, and, frankly, sometimes bleak things happening in the world of romance today.
Every Thursday, we’ll be posing one big, chaotic, culturally-relevant question — from t
