The Slumflower Hour
Join Chidera Eggerue, aka The Slumflower, in her debut podcast where she offers advice for women navigating relationships with men. Each episode tackles topics like setting boundaries, trusting your instincts, and recognizing when a man is genuinely interested. The show aims to empower disobedient women who date men, providing a space for honest and sometimes provocative discussions. New episodes drop every Friday.
Episodes
MAINTAINING THE STANDARD WHEN THINGS ARE GOING WELL
Do you feel inclined to self-sabotage in a healthy relationship? If so, what does that sabotage look like? How about balance? Would you consider yourself a secure skeptic? Or are you prepared to jump into love with both feet?
In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses the importance of keeping the upper hand even when you're happy!
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THE NEXT GIRL
Scared the next girl will get a better version of him? Worried that all your hard work sent building him will be enjoyed by another woman? Paranoid that the next girl will be so amazing that she will transform him?
In this episode, join Chidera as she debunks the myth that 'the next girl' will have the best experience being with him!
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BLACK CAT VS GOLDEN RETRIEVER
Is your boyfriend a good boy? Should we train him? Or is it time for him to be handed to the dog home for someone else to take him on as a problem?
In this episode, join Chidera as she talks about the importance of the black cat-golden retriever dynamic, and why women should consider leaning into ethical narcissism.
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SO YOU HAVE A PAST...
Do you feel self-conscious about having a sexual history? Have men tried to make you feel shame for having been 'ran thru'? Should we start judging men for their sexual pasts in the same way they judge us?
In this episode, join Chidera as she talks about why your past has nothing to do with how worthy you are of love - and how you should be using your sexual past to shape the future you want wi
THE HOT GIRLFRIEND
Are you the hot girlfriend? Do you find that men try to chip away at your confidence? Has a man ever tried to out-shine you?
In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses the plight of the hot girl - and why we should never be afraid to turn up the heat some more!
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THE PRIDEFUL MAN
Have you been victimised by a prideful man? This episode may be for you!
Join Chidera as she recounts her experiences with prideful men - and why we all need to guard and protect ourselves from men who are too weak to resist competing with women...
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WIFEY MATERIAL?
Does the idea of 'dating to marry' resonate with you? Are men using 'wifey material' as a way to lure you in? What even is 'husband material'?
In this episode, join Chidera as she disassembles this whole 'wife material' phrase and reminds us all of why we should be dubious of it!
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REBELLION
How can we explore rebellion in a way that keeps us safe and aligned with our standards?
In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the importance of rebelling against the rules men have assigned us - and why collecting money from men is a form of rebellion!
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BREAKING UP WITH HIM
Is it time to step away from him?
In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the cons of breaking up with him - and why frequent breakups might not be the worst thing in the world...
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THE CHASE
They say men love the chase but women love being chased too!
In this episode, join The Slumflower as she talks about the ways women can leverage the chase - and why we should be more selective of the validation we give men.
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SO YOU CRASHED OUT...
So you finally let it rip on him...I guess he deserved it!
In this rather validating episode, join Chidera as she talks about why crashouts can sometimes be beneficial for you - and why every man deserves the wrath that comes from provoking a bleeding woman!
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HIS MUSE
Has a man ever called you his muse? If so, did you know you may be entitled to compensation?
In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the invisible cost of being a man's muse - and why women deserve money when men use us as their artistic inspiration!
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YOU DON'T NEED TO SAVE HIM
Have you found yourself trapped in his sob story? Has that broke man got you going 50/50 as a way to 'ease his load'? Does your desire to save men come from a place of procrastination?
In this episode, join The Slumflower as she talks about why we need to leave men to figure it out - no matter how much it hurts us to watch them struggle!
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STAY FOCUSED!
Does falling in love tend to have you forgetting yourself?
In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the reasons we must always prioritise ourselves as women - no matter how much the lovebombing is beginning to work!
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HIS PROBATION PERIOD...
Should we bring back the 90 days period of 'waiting'? Should we start making men audition for our affection? Are men better partners when we put them through probation first?
In this episode, join The Slumflower as she talks about why it's still important to make him wait - and how you can effectively use his pride and ego to your benefit while he proves his intentions to you!
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ABOUT BEING A GIRLS GIRL...
Does the 'girls girl' really exist?
In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the complexity of female empowerment, expectations placed on women to like each other within feminism - and enjoy a juicy storytime of a situation where a woman tried to 'steal' a guy she was dating...on national TV!
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BITTERNESS
Should women be bitter? Is bitterness an emotion we can alchemise? Should we reclaim the word 'bitter'?
In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses what pushes a woman to become bitter - and why men weaponise the word against us.
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SO YOU WENT THROUGH HIS PHONE...
Should you go through a man's phone? Is there a silver lining to catching a man cheating? Are you prepared to walk away or would you prefer to punish him?
In this short and sweet episode, join Chidera as she discusses her opinion on whether you should look in that man's phone, and why as a woman it's always important to remain a few steps ahead emotionally!
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SO YOU'RE GOING ON A GIRLS NIGHT OUT...
Is the club really the place to find love? Should we be charging men to talk to us in the club? How do we keep safe and vigilant in the function?
Join Chidera for a funny episode where she discusses the tactics of using your looks, your wit and your discernment to have fun without losing yourself!
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THE POLITICS OF P*SSY POWER FT. PAMELA BLONDE
In the first episode of season 4, we are joined by dominatrix, social campaigner and all-round powerful woman: the one and only Pamela Blonde!
Join us for a conversation where we discuss sex work decriminalisation, castration kinks, needle play fetishes, being estranged from our mothers, being vulnerable as a dominant woman and being truly loved in all your layers as a sex worker.
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*SEASON 3 FINALE* WE NEED TO BE MORE MEAN TO MEN!
In the FINAL episode of season 3, we are joined by a fellow disobedient woman all the way from Australia!
@HorribleMeanBadWoman (real name Sarah) is the much-needed radical voice of female rage, who makes zero effort to spare men in her cultural commentary about patriarchy, male failure and why we should all be a little more horrible, mean and bad to men!
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THE MAN CHILD
Are you harbouring a man child in your home and calling him a husband? Is your mother-in-law the persistent third wheel in your marriage? Does that man seem to forever be 'unable' to clean up after himself?
In this episode, join Chidera as we tackle the curious case of the man child!
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TRANSPARENCY?
Are women conflating oversharing with bonding? Does telling men every single thing strengthen the relationship? Is your husband truly being transparent with you?
In this episode, join Chidera as she talks all the reasons you need to be less 'transparent' with men - and why honesty constantly being expected of women, is part of the grooming process.
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SO YOU'VE BEEN DUMPED!
Has he pulled the rug from under you? Did you see it coming but you tried to tell yourself otherwise? Is it time for you to start being the dumper to see what that power feels like?
In this episode, join Chidera as she embraces the so-called 'toxicity' of dumping men first - and why it's important for women to be the villain once in a while...
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TOXIC FEMININITY
Can femininity be considered toxic? Should women have bigger egos? Do women have a victim mentality?
In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the ways that femininity can be used against us, and why women need to see beyond what has been taught to us, in order to identify potentially abusive relationships.
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WHITE FEMINISM...
Do white women have a different version of feminism? (Yes) Is feminism serving us or holding us back when it comes to dating men? Are white women enablers of patriarchy?
In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses why Black women and women of colour cannot rely on white feminism...and why there are different socioeconomic ramifications Black women face when we split bills with men.
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SO YOU KEEP GIVING HIM CHANCES...
Do you tend to feel bad when a man begs and grovels? Are you against holding grudges? Should we give men more chances?
In this episode, join The Slumflower as she reminds you of all the reasons men don't deserve more chances, no matter how 'sorry' they are!
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REJECTION?
Does rejection make you spiral? Should women stop being old-fashioned and just make the first move on a man? Should we reject men before they reject us?
In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the power of rejection - and how women can use it more to our advantage!
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IS IT TOO LATE?
Is it too late to find 'the one'? What does it really mean when men call a woman 'expired'? Are men worth longing for?
In this episode, join The Slumflower as she reminds you that it is not too late to start living for yourself - and why not finding 'the one' might just be your biggest blessing!
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DESIRE IS POLITICAL
Have you ever considered or questioned the politics behind your romantic desires? Is a man's attraction to you political? Do our dating preferences change with our politics?
In this episode, join Chidera as she recounts her racist experiences working in the strip club, and what dating politically means to her.
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MARRIAGE IS S*X WORK
Do you see marriage for the negotiated contract that it is, or do you see marriage as a purely spiritual union, devoid of any power dynamics or transactions? Does the idea of marriage being compared to s*x work offend you, or do you see the ways women are expected to perform sexual and domestic labour as a 'duty'? Do married women actually benefit from marriage?
In a rather contentious and cont
DATING OLDER MEN VS YOUNGER MEN
What's all the hype surrounding dating younger men? Are older men a better option? Should there be an age limit for age gap relationships?
In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses her preference - and why neither option is necessarily 'easier'.
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REPEATING THE SAME MISTAKE
Are you trapped in a redundant loop of making the same mistake? Does your impulsivity betray you? Are you finally ready to leave your destructive life behind?
In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses the pitfalls of repeating the same mistakes women often make - and why feminism might be adding to your problems here.
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LISTEN TO THIS BEFORE YOU GO ON THAT DATE!
Are you off to see that man? Do you feel tempted to make it easier for him? Is your gut reliable enough for you to be dating right now?
In this episode, join Chidera as she lovingly warns you about what to be vigilant of in this desperate dating market!
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ABOUT STINGY MEN...
Is he stingy or does he just not like you? What happens if you have kids with a stingy man? Should we cheat on stingy men?
In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses why we should all expect more from men - and why stingy men deserve to be lonely.
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MISSING HIM?
Do you miss him? Has the amnesia suddenly hit you and now you can't remember why you cut him off to begin with? Are you tempted to go back?
In this episode, join Chidera as she talks through the reasons we end up caving when we think we miss these dudes.
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BREAKING YOUR HEART FOR YOUR ART?
Was that horrible relationship worth it because you were able to write some songs about it? Do you believe you have to put yourself through pain in order to feel creative? Did that heartbreak really need to happen or are you using art as an excuse to justify being around men who don't deserve you?
In today's episode, join Chidera as she (lovingly) drags the musician girlies!
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DETACHING WITH DIGNITY
Are you too easily attached to men? Are we 'manifesting' bad treatment from men by expecting it of them? Is your rejection sensitivity making you unnecessarily empathetic to men?
In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses why healthy detachment from men will save your life.
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MALE PRIVILEGE
Is there really such thing as 'terrible husband but a good father'? Should we starve men of sex to solve their entitlement issues? Will men ever become the 'good people' we fantasise about them becoming?
In this episode, join Chidera as she normalises hating men back.
TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses male sexual violence against women
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WE NEED TO REJECT MEN MORE OFTEN
Should we be less approving of men's flirty advances, even if they are being cute? Are we making the male loneliness epidemic harder on men by being less understanding of their sexual needs? And have we explored what might actually happen if we raise the bar for men to meet us?
In this episode, join The Slumflower as she justifies why she believes we need to make ourselves more romantically sca
BEING THE WOMAN HE CAN AFFORD
What do you stand to lose by being the woman he can afford? Do men appreciate women more when our standards are lower? Or are we just overthinking this whole thing?!
In this episode, join Chidera for a rather hilarious and spicy chat. ;)
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ATTRACTIVE MEN?
Are attractive men worth all the hassle? Do good-looking men deserve to be humbled? Is it a safer bet to date an 'ugly' man?
In this episode, join Chidera for a rather juicy chat!
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MALE-CENTRED WOMEN?
Are desperate women sinking the ship for the rest of us? Can men tell when you're male-centred? Are low-effort dates even worth it in the name of being a 'cool and easy' girl?
In this episode, join Chidera as she highlights the dangers of male-centred women...and what we can all do to redirect the focus to ourselves!
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MEN WILL NEVER CHANGE
Are you still clinging onto the hope that one day, men will finally be who we want them to be? Is feminism doing what we need it to do? Are YOU brainwashed?
The Slumflower explores it all in this episode!
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ARE YOU PRIME PREY?
Does being too empathetic make men see you as pathetic? Could there be a pattern of your behaviour that predatory men are drawn to? Are you prepared for a world where the men you're dating are leaning closer towards red pill ideologies?
In this episode, join Chidera as she raises the alarm on how close the predator is in proximity to all of us!
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HOMEWRECKER?
Do 'homewreckers' really exist? Would you date your friend's ex? Should you forgive your husband for cheating?
Hmmm...in today's episode, join Chidera as she debunks this 'homewrecker' phrase once and for - and shines the light on where it belongs: MARRIED MEN!
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CASUAL SEX?
Is sex really casual? This is the question being pondered upon in this episode.
Join The Slumflower as she toys with the debate of whether a woman can truly benefit from 'no strings attached' sex!
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COMMUNICATION IS NOT KEY!
Do you find yourself having to keep repeating your requests to the man in your life? Do people keep telling you that you need to 'communicate' if you want a healthy relationship (even though the person you're communicating to is not listening)? Have you found yourself feeling fatigued in your relationship?
This episode is specifically for the women who are trapped in the communication loop. There
HOPELESS ROMANTIC?
Are you a hopeless romantic? Do you believe that love conquers all? Do you live in the hope that one day, you'll fall in love and things will fall into place as they were always meant to?
In this episode, join The Slumflower as she debunks the concept of being a 'hopeless romantic', while she exposes the true intentions of men who call themselves that!
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USE HIM
Do you feel guilty about using men in a world where men created a system where women will always be commodified? Have you found yourself feeling tongue-tied when wanting to ask a man for help? Should men be of service to us?
In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses why we should put these men to work! ;)
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HOW TO NOT GET ATTACHED
Do you struggle with premature attachment to men? Do you fear you'll never stop being a lover girl? Is it really the man you're attached to or are you attached to the idea of being desired?
In this episode, join Chidera as she helps you banish the demonic spirit of unnecessary attachment to straight men!
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ENERGETIC HARVESTING
Is that man using you as an ego boost? Is he really 'just shy' or is he waiting for you to chase him? Do men deserve our friendship?
In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses the ways men steal our energy for their own empowerment...
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LOSING HOPE?
Is your loneliness starting to become obvious? Do you secretly fear that you're not going to find your person? Are you losing hope?
It's okay! Let's chill out, take a deep breath and reground ourselves.
In this episode, join Chidera as she talks you through your FOMO and debunks your fears.
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THE STRONG WOMAN
Are you a strong woman who takes pride in being independent? Do you secretly wish you knew how to receive support without 'losing' your strength? Do men praise you for being 'strong'?
In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses why being strong doesn't mean you have to struggle! Besides, what's the man there for?
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POOR COOCHIE MANAGEMENT
Has your poor coochie management led to your demise? Are you in denial about the ripple effect your sexual decisions have on the quality of your life? Are men onto something when they tell us sleeping with them makes us 'impure'?
In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the ramifications of being sexually careless - and why we all ought to step up the pussy security IMMEDIATELY!
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THE TOXIC GIRLFRIEND
Have you ever been accused of being 'toxic' for holding a man accountable? Do your friends consider you 'too harsh' in your dating decisions and conclusions? Is there something you enjoy in giving men a taste of their own medicine?
If so, you'll definitively enjoy this episode. Join The Slumflower, as she reclaims the term 'toxic' and flips the script once again!
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DATING IN A STINGY COUNTRY
Do you live in a land full of stingy men who love to split the bill? Are you starting to lose hope that you'll meet a man who will treat you as you want to be treated? Has 'feminism' made men too lazy to provide?
In this episode garnished with a storytime, join Chidera as she discusses how to survive stingy men!
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HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!
Has the FOMO of Valentine's day got you feeling blue? Did your man 'conveniently' start a fight with you a couple days ago? Are you bored of Valentine's day?
If any of the above questions resonate with you, you'll most certainly enjoy this episode! Join The Slumflower as she discusses why Valentine's day is important - and not for the reasons we might think... ;)
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SO HE'S GOTTEN TOO COMFORTABLE...
So it's finally happened...he's become carried away and comfortable enough to start coasting through the relationship...
His yearning has decreased and his ability to remain mad at you has suddenly taken precedence. Big yikes! Time to hit the brakes, I fear.
In this new episode kicking off season 3, join Chidera as she talks you through the key indicators that your man might just be too comforta
*SEASON 2 FINALE* THE FEMDOM CHRONICLES WITH OG TIERRA DOLL
In this FINALE episode of season 2, we are joined by the 6 figure-earning dominatrix, OG Tierra Doll!
In this juicy episode, we discuss findom as wealth redistribution and a radical politic, the extensive library of quirky kink fetishes and femdom vs feminism.
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NEEDING MEN...
Should my feminism be dismissed as 'anti-feminist'? Are you really independent if you still rely on men for orgasms? Is it possible to truly be empowered while dating men?
In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses why 'feminists' hate sex workers, why it's radical to expect a man who loves you to put assets in your name, and what empowerment while dating men can actually look like!
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ABOUT MALE 'FRIENDS'...
Can male friends actually play a fulfilling role of support in our lives? Is it better to sleep with men you're already friends with? What is your criteria for male friends?
Join Chidera as it all goes down in this hilarious episode!
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DICKMATIZED?
Is the dick too bomb for you to use your sense? Have you found yourself roped into a 'situationship' from what was only meant to be a brief hookup? Are you hoping the sex will make him love you?
In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses why 'being dickmatized' is of the mind - and how we can all snap out of it before we become stuck!
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SPENDING HIS MONEY
Are you dating to marry or dating for money? Do women deserve to be paid to be pregnant? Is it possible to fall in love without giving away your power to a man?
These are questions that need answers and in this episode, join Chidera as she covers them!
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STICKING TO YOUR GUNS
Do you struggle with putting your foot down when handling a situation with a guy? Are you often 'too nice' when you should be a little more dubious of men? Have you fallen into the mentality of making men's negligence about you?
In this episode, enjoy a storytime and Chidera's real-time texting conversation with a man who is now blocked!
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SUBTLE SIGNS HE'S NOT THE ONE
Do you feel like that man is romantically edging you? Is there a vibe that he 'kind of' likes you but is holding back? Are you at a crossroads of whether you should keep emotionally investing in him?
If any of the above questions resonate with you, this quick burst of an episode might give you the answers you need...while giving you a laugh!
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DO LOOKS MATTER?
Do looks really matter? Should we 'dress for men'? Is it considered 'unfeminist' to use your beauty as leverage?
We cover all these questions in this episode, where The Slumflower dives into beauty as a tool - and whether feminism is helping or hindering our journeys towards the lifestyles we desire...
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OVERCOMING THE FEAR OF ASKING MEN FOR STUFF
Do you feel like you 'owe' men sex for a cocktail? Does the 'gold digger' label scare you away from being upfront about your needs? Are you playing to win or are you playing to be fair?
In this episode, join Chidera as she dilutes your fears of asking men for things, and chats through the ridiculousness of male entitlement!
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ARE YOU A STRICT BABE?
Are you trying to find the firmness in your voice? Or are you worried you might be a bit too blunt?
In this episode, join Chidera as she talks through the ways we can all be a little stricter without flying off the rails - and why there's nothing scarier to a man, than a woman who is pissed off and relaxed about it...
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HOW TO EXPLOIT MEN
Do you feel bad about dating selfishly? Does the idea of 'using' a man make you feel guilty? Is it exploitative to date men with your best interest at the forefront?
In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses her favourite ways to exploit men in a world where they systemically and interpersonally exploit women every single day...
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IS HE A BOYFRIEND OR IS HE A TRAUMA BOND?
Have you convinced yourself you're stuck with that man? Is he really the best you can do? Why do you even keep giving him chances?
In this brief and funny episode, join The Slumflower as she talks through the lies we tell ourselves to cling onto these men who have passed their expiry date in our lives...
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HAVING HIS BABIES?
Is the pressure on to start a family? Feeling broody? Or maybe even experiencing that FOMO feeling as everyone around you is starting to have babies? You are not alone!
In this episode, join Chidera as she talks about why you don't need to have kids just because you want to...and the ways we can all show up in a maternal role without having to commit to parenthood *cough cough* shout out to the a
DATING AS A FIRST BORN DAUGHTER
Are you a first born daughter who has been plagued by the perpetual sense of responsibility...even over the men you date?
Has your first born daughter status evolved into a saviour complex?
Do you feel like you need to be useful in order to be loved?
Dear first born daughters, this one is for us! In this episode, join Chidera as she muses and reflects on her life and upbringing as a first bor
HOW TO DATE NIGERIAN MEN
Have you been victimised by a Nigerian man?
Are you too nice to the Nigerian men you date? (YES)
Is there a lack of cultural awareness that impinges upon your ability to understand Nigerian men?
However you resonate (or don't) with these questions, you'll enjoy this episode full of insight, banter and cultural context from a Nigerian woman, herself!
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SO YOU'RE NOT LEARNING YOUR LESSON...
Are you that friend who keeps calling your friend to complain about the same man you won't leave?
Are you the friend who wishes your homegirl would get a grip and get over that man, so you can have your friend back?
Or are you that woman who has exhausted all your friendships and has found herself isolated because you keep choosing men over self-respect?
If any of the above resonate, this episo
DATING WHILE NEURODIVERGENT
Do you find your neurodivergence interfering with your dating life? Have you found your rejection sensitivity makes you more prone to rumination? Has your constant masking made you more used to tolerating discomfort around men?
In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses how her neurodivergence influences the way she navigates men.
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THE PARADOX OF THE PICK-ME
Are pick-me women simply misunderstood? Are things 'easier' with men when you let patriarchy run its course? What can women do to avoid becoming desperate?
In this episode, join Chidera as she talks through all the reasons why picking men over yourself will always leave you short-changed and resentful - no matter how exceptional you think your situation is...
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WHEN THE LOVE BOMBING DOESN'T WORK...
Did you notice yourself almost falling for the botched dream being sold to you? Was it all stating to feel a little too good to be true? Has he switched up on you because his little game didn't work?
Nothing hits better than that 'thank God I didn't fall for him' relief and in this episode, The Slumflower visits the various ways men become sassy and insufferable when their grandiosity backfires!
FEARING MEN
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If we can all agree that men are scary, then we can al agree that dating men should be worth our time, right? Join Chidera, as she chats through safety, self esteem and making men EARN your trust!
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