Deeper Sex - A podcast about deeper connections and incredible sex
Deeper Sex is hosted by real-life couple Will and Chiara and focuses on deep love, intimacy, exploration, and adventure. It is aimed at growth-minded professionals who want to overcome fears and build authentic connections, trust, and a more fulfilling romantic relationship. Drawing on decades of experience with love, intimacy, ethical non-monogamy, and open relationships, the hosts share what they have learned about unlocking extraordinary relationships and sex. The show is part of the Deeper Lovers coaching method, and more information is available at deeperlovers.com.
Episodes
We said "I love you" to other people | Why "don't catch feelings" is bad advice | What happens when you let love in | E29
We were taught that catching feelings for others was a bad idea.
We have been doing the exact opposite, and our relationship only got stronger – not to mention the incredible sex between us...
Today we talk about Love and how you can experience its deepest and purest form – whether you’re monogamous or not.
We discuss:
why "don't catch feelings" is a rule worth questioning
the difference between
The fine line making or breaking your sex life: 4 nervous system regulation hacks for wild adventures | E28
“Feeling safe” is what makes great sex possible: your nervous system needs to feel completely at ease to really let go — but when your intimate encounter gets too safe, too planned, too nice, it’s no longer sexy. No matter if you’re man or woman.
So how can you feel safe enough / provide the necessary “nervous system safety” to get sexy and maybe even a little kinky, without becoming boring? That'
"You should not be wanting sex" - How Shame kills your sex life (and how to stop that) | E27
If anyone has ever said that to you "You should not be wanting so much sex" - related to how often you want it, a fantasy, or a desire that turned up uninvited — this one is for you.
We go straight to the point today: shame is the cause of almost every problem in a relationship.
We discuss:
how shame is something that we are not born with – but that is rather taught us – for good and, not so good
Open Or Monogamous Relationship? Neither Lasts Without These 3 Pillars — With Eva Di Pierro | E26
Today we are joined by Eva Di Pierro - a somatic practitioner and bodyworker who's spent over 15 years guiding individuals, couples and leaders into deeper connection and presence — we trained under her years ago and have been working with her since.
Will and I built our relationship on being open. Eva built hers on staying monogamous. We sat down to find out what actually makes a relationship wo
Dreaming to sleep with multiple people but in a monogamous relationship? Here’s how you do both | E25
Most people fantasise about being with someone other than their partner. That’s normal. The question is what you do with it.
In this episode, we get into one of the most common — and least talked-about — sexual fantasies: desiring variety in sexual partners.
We cover what ENM (Ethical Non-Monogamy) looks like in practice – with all its various flavours - and how monogamous couples can safely explo
Suppressing Your Fantasies Is Counter Productive: We Are Wired To Be Attracted To Others - with Paris | E24
What if the fantasy you've been hiding is the exact thing your relationship needs?
Most of us treat our desires like secrets — something to protect our partner from.
Today we are joined by Paris, a longtime tantric practitioner and facilitator who went from completely frigid to living out every fantasy she's ever had. She is one of Will and Chiara's main teachers.
In this episode we discuss:
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What's Really Cockblocking Your Wildest Fantasies (And How To Stop That Now) | E23
What’s the thing that scares the shit out of most couples? Being seen for who they really are. And in sex? Sharing their fantasies.
What’s the one thing that sits underneath every fantasy, every risk, and every deeply connected relationship? It’s TRUST.
Most of us simply don't trust what will happen when we share ourselves completely.
So, today’s episode is all about helping you doing exactly that
How to share secret sexual desires & why we’re turned on by taboos | E22
Most of us were raised to believe that sexual fantasies are shameful - or just plain wrong. But what if those forbidden desires weren’t signs that something’s broken?
In this episode, we get to the bottom of why so many people are turned on by taboos, what that says about our emotional wiring, and we share practical strategies to discuss fantasies with your partner in a way that builds trust, safe
Why your intimacy issues aren’t caused by your partner with Puja Lepp | E21
Most people think the key to better sex and exciting relationships is learning the right moves or finding "The One".
In an interview with one of our teachers, Will and I talk about why the patterns that hold you back in bed are the same ones that limit you in life. Why lack of intimacy isn’t about the other person, the sex positions, or your performance. And why feeling stuck, unseen, or frustrate
My partner doesn’t want sex. What should I do? | E20
To celebrate our podcast 1st anniversary, we address our clients’ most common questions in a live Q&A - from jealousy to sexual dynamics and open relationships.
Partner communication, establishing trust, and addressing underlying issues in a relationship are some of the things we are experts on, and our goal is to provide you with practical tips that will enhance your romantic connections.
If
Threesome fantasy? How to talk to your partner about it (and make it happen) | E19
Threesomes are one of the most common fantasies - yet only few people have the courage to act on them. Is it something you should try, or is it better left as a fantasy?
In this episode, Will and Chiara explore the psychology behind group sex, the gap between fantasy and reality, and how to decide whether a threesome is right for you.
They go over the key conversations couples need to have before
Fighting with erections and performance anxiety? Here’s what you didn’t know you can do | E18
Will and Chiara tackle another taboo topic that many men (and their partners) struggle with, but rarely discuss openly: erections.
From performance anxiety to the pressure of always staying hard, they explore how much of the struggle is psychological rather than physical.
They discuss how shame, unrealistic expectations, and overthinking can interfere with arousal, and share practical ways to over
How to get 10-minute long orgasms (for both men and women) | E17
This is a must-listen for both men and women looking to feel more, longer and better orgasms.
Today’s episode will completely transform your understanding of what “coming” is:
Did you know that there are many types of orgasms for women?
And did you know that men can orgasm without ejaculating… and vice versa?
Love and intimacy coaches Will and Chiara challenge common beliefs around clitoral stimul
Bring the passion back when your relationship gets meh | Masculine & Feminine Polarity | E16
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Changing gears with Season 2, love and intimacy coaches Will and Chiara explain in very simple terms the concept of relationship Polarity, and the importance of balancing the masculine and feminine energies that you input in a relationship - regardless of your gender.
They show how a polarity imbalance
How to have Deeper Sex and stop fighting about sex (Season 1 Finale) | E15
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We have a big surprise coming up for you.
We are closing out Season 1 of the Deeper Sex Podcast to come back with Season 2 and offer something even more exciting and useful to you and your lover, in and out of the bedroom.
We believe that sex should not be the driver of arguments and unhappiness for a co
From "Bedroom Boredom" To "First-Date Chemistry" Sex: This Is How You Transform Your Relationship with Adriana Keefe | E14
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Will and Chiara are interviewed by Human Design coach Adriana to explore how they transformed their lives through sexual exploration and liberation.
They’ve made intimacy coaching their life’s purpose, because there’s so much fun and sex to be had in life, that everyone should be able
How To Be Sexually “Open” Even If You’re Monogamous | Feeling Free | E13
How open(-minded) are you, really? And how "free" do you feel?
Our biggest fear is not being loved. And fears keep us stuck in the comfort zone. But what happens when we suspend fear?
While reflecting on our kinda out-of-the-norm summer, we explain how openness, curiosity, and feeling comfortable in your own body can bring you a deeper sense of connection and, ultimately, freedom.
There's a differ
9 Effective Ways To Talk To Your Partner So They "Get You" | E12
Communication is THE KEY in enhancing relationships and sexual experiences.
Drawing from our personal and professional experiences, we share practical tips on how you can initiate open dialogues about desires, needs, and fantasies with your partner.
As always we emphasise on creating a safe space for vulnerability, avoiding blame, and using creative alternative methods like writing sexy emails t
How Do I Deal With Jealousy in My Relationship? | E11
Jealousy can serve as a useful tool in relationships when rooted in objective facts: it can be a sign of real issues, but also a reflection of deeper insecurities. How do you know?
In this episode we cover the various sides of jealousy, how to understand when it is keeping you safe, vs. when it’s signalling that there’s something deeper to look into – your body generally knows best.
We look at jea
A Very Special Threesome (And How We Made It Happen) | E10
Have you ever dreamt of joining a threesome but never dared ask your partner? It’s a universal fantasy, and one that can become reality with trust and good communication.
In this episode, we share a very intimate experience where we pushed our boundaries further than ever before: for the first and only time in our life, Chiara is "lent" for the night as a Unicorn to Allie and her husband, while Wi
How Kinky Are you? And, Should The World Know? | E9
Are you “vanilla” or “spicy”? Are you into ENM? Are you not? Are you curious? How much should you share about this with your friends? And should you drag them into this exploration with you?
These are all themes we discuss in this episode, focusing on the importance of respecting the boundaries of people around you.
While we could not wish for deeper connections and the personal growth that we've
GIFT! Practical free resources for your sexual exploration and healing journey | E8
Free resources + next steps for your sexual healing journey:
- Download the free guide: “10 phrases to start deeper conversations with your partner”
- Chiara’s free live workshop "The Deeper Lovers Effect": book your spot here
For more info, visit www.chiarahardie.com
Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn about what anyone thinks.
She helps you find the con
How To 10x Your Sexual Encounters: A Sensual Birthday Surprise | E7
Have you ever experienced how sensuality and soft touch can 10x your sexual encounters?
Listen to the sensual birthday surprise that Chiara arranged for her husband Will: beyond the sexiness of it all, you’ll learn how embracing sensuality, soft touch, and vulnerability can positively impact your intimacy - and your relationship overall.
Will describes his struggle to relax and surrender to recei
There’s No Shame In “Dirty” Fantasies: How Speaking Them Out Loud Transforms Your Taboos Into Passion | E6
Almost everyone carries with them a sexual fantasy they don’t dare to share. We hesitate to reveal our desires, even to a loving partner, out of shame or fear of judgment.
Some fantasies are scenes you might like to live out for real. Others will remain sexy movies that we play just for ourselves. Either way, fantasies are erotic fuel – and their power multiplies if you find courage to voice them.
From Failed-Marriage Misery to Cosmic Sex: How we did it - via ENM and sex positive spaces | E5
This is our Origin Stories episode. Hear about the journeys that brought Allie, Will and Chiara from conservative childhoods, breakdowns, divorces and body shame to happiness and the strongest relationships of their lives.
We explain how we discovered ENM (ethical non-monogamy), survived novice mistakes and navigated the circus, but also how we learned to communicate to each other fearlessly, esta
Don’t Like The Way You Look? How To Reframe Body Shame And Body Image | E4
Body image is a common problem for both men and women.
Here we discuss how negative perceptions can impact intimacy and relationships, and how healing and personal growth can transform your sex life and deepen your connection.
Women in particular often feel negatively about their appearance due to societal standards, so Chiara vulnerably shares her journey back to loving her body.
We also explore
How to Have Better Sex and More Intimacy | E3
Are you longing for deeper, more intimate sexy time?
Today we share what we learnt about how to shift boundaries in the ENM and kinky world that we sometimes play in, and draw lessons for how intimacy and sensuality can supercharge connections - in all kinds of relationships.
We talk about how rare it is to find partners who share a similar emphasis on slow, intimate play, and we provide a few tip
Could “Cheating Together” Strengthen Your Relationship? | E2
Contrary to what many people fear, today we talk about how non-monogamy can strengthen relationships (the ones that are ready for it).
You’ll learn something seemingly counterintuitive: how can adding more “bodies'' into a relationship strengthen a bond?
We unpack concepts like open communication, trust, honest conversations, respecting boundaries, and navigating complex emotions together.
Allie
Why You Are Not Having (Enough) Sex | E1
What are the challenges that couples face in maintaining a fulfilling sex life, especially as responsibilities grow and the initial spark fades?
Today we have a very open discussion about the importance of creating time for intimacy and sensuality - which is not just having “intercourse” as your main goal.
We share our own experiences and learnings, such as:
- how we communicated in tricky situat
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ABOUT CHIARA
ICF-certified professional Co-Active Coach® with a masters in business communication. Ex sales director for a tech pioneer where she led sales teams for 15 years. Communicating and helping others perform were her daily bread. Finding herself successful but unfulfilled, she left her firs
