How Did We Get Here?
In this original series from Somethin' Else, Claudia Winkleman and Professor Tanya Byron help real-life parents and family members by inviting them to share their struggles in unscripted sessions. Topics include parental estrangement, gender identity, domestic violence, trauma, and more. Each episode provides insights and practical solutions, along with useful links and contacts in the show notes.
Episodes
Introducing: How to Date
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Claudia Winkleman on the joy of imperfection - How to Fail with Elizabeth Day
Claudia Winkleman is a broadcaster who feels like your best friend - whether she's co-hosting Strictly Come Dancing, fronting her Saturday morning BBC Radio 2 show or sending shivers down your spine as the presenter of The Traitors. And now, for our season finale, she joins How to Fail to talk about her hatred of perfect, her distaste for exercise, her introversion and her failure to live in the p
If I'm Not Thin I'm Not Successful
Bea is an achiever in all areas of her life apart from one. She feels that until she is slimmer, she hasn’t achieved everything she set out to do.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counsellin
Grieving Multiple Losses
Isla has suffered more deaths in her family than most people deal with in a lifetime.
She finds it impossible to process what has happened and needs a way out of the pain.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the Briti
Keep Myself to Myself
George was a fireman for the RAF in Iraq and Afghanistan. After his tour of 2007, he came back a different person and has found it hard to reintegrate into society.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Associat
My Mother Walked Out
Heather’s mum left the family home when she was 17 with no warning. Heather still struggles with that day many years later, but is she looking at it the wrong way?
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Associati
Why Does Everyone Leave?
Lottie can’t get over the split with her ex-husband and finds it hard to trust her new boyfriend. As a child, she lost both her parents and her brother was murdered, the repercussions of which are still felt today.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you
Driving Phobia
8 years ago Eva felt faint when driving on a motorway and hasn’t been able to drive on fast roads since. Her friend’s death in a road traffic accident when she was a teenager may be the key.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or
Constant State of Anxiety
Charlie, who had to care for his siblings and had a difficult coming out story, finds it hard to take care of himself.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co
Strained Family Ties
Annie’s relationship with her siblings has worsened since their mother died, and realises the key to resolving the conflict might lie with their estranged father.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for
Childhood Trauma
Maya tried to resuscitate her baby brother when she was 11 and has carried guilt from that day ever since.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.o
The DNA Test That Changed Everything
Danny took a home DNA test and the result has blown his family apart.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registe
Why Can't I Get Close To People? Am I Asexual?
Asha finds it hard to be intimate with friends and lovers and wonders if she is Asexual.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they shoul
Can't Unsee It - PTSD
Gary served in the military and the British Transport Police. He was a frontline worker in the aftermath of the 7/7 bombings and is haunted by some of the tragic things he has seen as part of his job. As mentioned in the podcast, here is the link for the charity that Gary runs. https://www.ptsd999.org.uk/
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode, please see below
How Did We Get Here?... Season 3!
It’s time for a new season, where Claudia Winkleman and Professor Tanya Byron meet a different guest each week who has an issue that they are struggling with. Professor Tanya speaks to them in a one to one session and Claudia asks questions in the breaks.
Claud and Tan aim to unlock the challenges facing our guest and help them to move to a place of clarity. This season we look at challenges such
Introducing... Role Model!
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Introducing... Ian Wright's Everyday People!
Ian Wright is on a journey of discovery, searching for those positive role models that walk amongst us in everyday life. The real life champions that come in all shapes and sizes, from all walks of life - this podcast captures him meeting and learning from these inspirational, everyday people.
Ian is a goalscoring hero and football legend - a much loved and positive role model across the UK, adore
Eating Has A Hold Over Me
Rhian has suffered from disordered eating throughout her life and wants to break the hold it has over her.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org
Am I On The Spectrum?
Everyone tells Tom he is on the spectrum. He wonders whether he should find out.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC
Should I Leave My Family?
John realises his family have always been abusive to him. Should he distance himself from them?
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - the
Struggling With IVF
Sophie is struggling to come to terms with having children by IVF.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered.
My Father Was Imprisoned
In this episode, we meet Clare. Clare’s father was arrested in front of her and then imprisoned when she was 11. She has struggled for a number of years and wants a formal diagnosis.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the B
I'm Misunderstood
In this episode, we meet James. James feels misunderstood and finds it hard to trust people.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they
Does My Daughter Hate Me?
In this episode, we meet Allie. Allie cannot shift the feeling that her daughter hates her. Allie is worried that the grief she suffered when her father died has been passed on.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British
My Brother Is Out Of Control
In this episode, we meet Trudy. Trudy fell out with her brother a few years ago and believes mental health issues are the cause.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BA
If She's Like This Now...
In this episode, we meet Julie. Julie finds her ten-year-old daughter incredibly challenging. She’s concerned what she will be like as a teenager.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and
My Long-Term Relationships Don't Work
In this episode, we meet Sally. Sally can’t hold down a relationship for longer than 18 months and feels her relationship with her father is the cause.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counsellin
Extra Marital Affair Guilt
In this episode, we meet Jodie. Jodie feels guilt after having an extra-marital affair.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they shoul
My Mother Took Her Own Life
In this second series of How Did We Get Here?, Claudia and Tanya reunite to identify struggles faced by people and their family members.
In this episode we meet Simran. Simran's mother tragically took her own life eight years ago and Simran is still looking for answers.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further suppor
How Did We Get Here?... Season 2!
In this second series of How Did We Get Here?, Claudia and Tanya reunite to identify struggles faced by people and their family members. Each episode is a real story told in a one-time, unscripted session. In this series, topics include ASD, parental suicide, extra-martial affairs, parenting challenging children, the legacy of childhood abuse and holding down a romantic relationship. Claudia liste
Introducing... The Passion Economy!
Hey How Did We Get Here fans! Here's a show we think you'll like from our friends at 3Uncanny4..... The Passion Economy!
In the clip for this episode:
Damali tells Adam about her “aha moment” The moment she realizes she wasn’t using 100% of her skills and passions in her current 9-5 job in banking and details how exactly she was able to identify her unique set of passions and interests that fueled
Introducing... The Immaculate Deception!
Hi How Did We Get Here? fans, we've made a show we think you'll like.... Fertility doctor Jan Karbaat was renowned for getting amazing results. Women who were desperate for children would visit him at his Rotterdam clinic and leave pregnant. But when the clinic closed, rumours began about the methods Karbaat used to achieve his success. The children conceived at the clinic - the Karbaat Kids - beg
Grief Stricken Parenting
Danielle’s husband passed away 4 years ago from cancer. She is increasingly anxious about parenting her teenage children on her own whilst suffering with grief.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Coun
How To Live A Full Life With Health Conditions
Naomi has been diagnosed with Crohns disease and endometriosis and feels stuck. Naomi wants to explore her options in how to accept her situation.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered.
Other helpful organisations: -
MIND - www.mind.co.uk
Crohn'
I Need Peace With My Brother
Emma has ongoing issues with her brother who she says has strong animosity towards her. Emma wants to come to a place of peace with the situation.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered.
Other helpful organisations: -
MIND - www.mind.co.uk
NSPCC
Will My Fatherless Twins Be OK?
Karen wants to ensure she will bring up well-adjusted twin daughters with their father not around.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - th
Guilt Over My Disabled Daughter
Natasha has a severely disabled daughter with an undiagnosed condition and discovers she has PTSD.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk -
Teen Separation Anxiety
Lidia wants to resolve separation anxiety with her daughter, who has ADHD.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC regist
Working Mother- Am I Enough?
Shahlaa is struggling with the demands of work and family.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered.
Other help
Our Small Children Divide And Conquer
Max and Anna's eldest daughter will only do activities with their mummy.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC regist
My Trans Relationship
Joanna who, after discovering that her husband wanted to transition, has achieved a happy marriage. She now wants to fulfil all aspects of their relationship.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Coun
Our Daughters Won't Sleep In Their Own Beds
Donia found that her two young daughters would not sleep in their beds after she was diagnosed with cancer.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.or
Will My Son Inherit Bipolar?
Lara was diagnosed with Bipolar disorder 8 years ago. She wants to know whether she has passed this on to her son.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.
To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk
My Distant Father
In this beautiful season opener, Claudia meets Jack, before introducing him to Professor Tanya Byron who, in a one on one session, digs deep into his story, with fascinating and emotional revelations.
Jack who has overcome anxiety and PTSD, but has found his biggest challenge to date, is the estrangement from his father.
If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode pl
How Did We Get Here?
Introducing How Did We Get Here? with Claudia Winkleman and Dr Tanya Byron. With topics ranging from parental estrangement, gender identity, domestic violence, trauma, inheriting mental health issues, family dynamics after cancer and raising a severely disabled daughter, How Did We Get Here? is a passionate, insightful and moving experience, with clear outcomes to each episode. This is a Somethin'
