Toni Told Me with Toni Tone
Toni Told Me with Toni Tone is a podcast where host Toni Tone offers heartfelt advice on everyday dilemmas, covering relationships, family, career choices, and more. Each episode provides a cozy space for real talk and guidance, aiming to help listeners navigate life's challenges with a mix of sincerity and humor. The podcast is produced by Audio Always and hosted on Acast.
Episodes
We NEED to talk about Aunties...
Toni's unpacking Auntie Culture this week. The backhanded compliments, the double standards and the self appointed board of directors who somehow have an opinion on everything you do. Plus, what happens when your mum starts planning your wedding before you've even picked a path for yourself...and is rushing into marriage really the answer she thinks it is?Join our Patreon: Patreon.com/ToniToldMe —
People pleasers NEVER win!!!
Toni's talking people pleasing this week and why it never actually pays off 😩 Plus Teatime with Toni is back with Producer Annisha for two juicy dilemmas: a listener who found something in her boyfriend's wallet that isn't hers, and another grieving her relationship with her mum after a new marriage changed everything. Then it's Sisterhood Spotlight, breaking down why people pleasing is costing yo
Conversion Therapy Made Me MORE Gay
This week on Toni Told Me, Toni sits down with beauty content creator Damilola (@Dami.Adei) for an honest conversation about navigating the beauty industry as a Black gay man, from his coming out journey, to the moment conversion therapy backfired in the most unexpected way, to the double standards men still face in beauty spaces. Plus, it's Teatime with Toni first, where Toni and Producer Annisha
20K, 20 Lessons & A Birthday… We're Celebrating Everything
It's a triple celebration on this week's episode of Toni Told Me!!! We've hit 20K subscribers on YouTube, it's Toni's birthday AND she's sitting down to share 20 lessons she learned from her 20s. From the things she wishes she'd known sooner to the hard truths that shaped who she is today, Toni is getting reflective, real and a little bit vulnerable, and Annisha joins her for Teatime with Toni to
BTS of My New Book: 'Soft Life'
Are you ready for your weekly dose of Toni Told Me? This week Toni is sharing something very special with her listeners...it's her NEW BOOK 'Soft Life'. For those of you that watch the podcast on YouTube, you'll get an exclusive peek at the cover whilst Toni delves into how her latest book came about and some of the topics she touches on that she has never shared before. And in Teat
Is Pretty Privilege the One Bias Nobody's Cancelling?
Pretty privilege… it's still a thing, and will it ever not be? Toni gets into ALL of it this episode, from the halo effect, to that very attractive felon Jeremy Meeks, to Toni's own personal experiences with pretty privilege. In Teatime with Toni, one listener needs advice when the guy she's talking to isn't tall enough and the conversation isn't matching his height either
Love Island UK vs. Representation
Love Island is only one week into its 13th season and already the same conversation has taken over social media. Once again, representation is at the forefront of everyone's minds, and Toni herself has thoughts. Black women on the show continue to face the same recurring challenges: being overlooked by the male contestants and consistently feeling like they're getting the short end of the stick. B
When Is The Right Time To Walk Away?
Are you dealing with a cheater or just not feeling excited in your relationship anymore...then this episode is for you! This week Toni delves into a subject a lot of us may try very hard to avoid even though we know it's the right thing to do. When is the right time to walk away? It's a question deep down in our heart we know the answer to but it's just a bit too scary to face. Join our Patreon: P
Black women don’t want to be strong anymore!!
Strong. Resilient. Unbreakable. But at what cost? This week we're diving into Strong Black Woman Syndrome, what it is, why it's harmful, and why Black women are choosing to put the cape down. Plus, in Teatime with Toni one listener has fallen for someone great but can't stop questioning whether she's "enough", and another listener who's stuck in the middle of a friendship fallout that's tearing he
Bare Minimum vs. Princess Treatment
This week Toni is joined by Producer Annisha for Teatime with Toni where they're solving your dilemmas! Then in the Sisterhood Spotlight, Toni is getting into the debate that never seems to end — bare minimum vs princess treatment BUT we are de-bunking the phrase princess treatment, and coining it ‘going above and beyond’ instead. Because at what point did we start calling basic care and lov
Maneaters Always Win ft. Anxiously Alej
This week Toni is joined by viral dating strategist Anxiously Alej, who turned her own heartbreak and betrayal into a platform empowering women to take their power back in love. But first, Teatime with Toni! One listener is stuck with a man who won't commit but refuses to let her go, and another is navigating the messy fallout of mutual betrayal in a long-distance relationship. Then Alej
No, I'm Not Taking His Name
We've all been there: Having to push back on expectations foisted upon us by others. From partners expecting you to take their name, to parents expecting you to follow a certain path, and even just the wider societal expectation of meeting suppose life milestones by a certain age, in this episode, Toni and Producer Annisha explain how we actually find our own way and make sure we're making choices
I Got Everything I Manifested And I Hate It!
We made the vision board. We wrote the list. We did the work. So why does getting everything we asked for feel so… complicated? This week we're unpacking the truth about manifesting, the part nobody talks about. Plus, Toni and Producer Annisha are in the inbox solving your dilemmas, including one that'll make you question everything you thought you knew about your dream person showing up.Join our
My family keeps asking me for money?!
You can cut off a friend. You can leave a situationship. But family? That's a whole different conversation. This week Toni is getting into why setting boundaries with the people closest to us is the hardest thing to do, and why the guilt never seems to go away. Plus, two dilemmas that are giving family drama, financial pressure, and a mum who cannot keep a secret to save her life.Join our Patreon:
Hyper-Independence: Empowerment or Trauma Response?
"I don't need anyone"...sounds empowering, right? But what happens when that mindset starts closing the door on real love and connection? This week Toni is unpacking hyper-independence in women: the difference between being self-sufficient and emotionally shutting the world out. In Teatime with Toni, two listeners share how their independence is costing them in love, one was told she felt more lik
Why Your Family Treats You Differently (Birth Order Explained)
Ever felt like the responsible one or the overlooked one? This episode dives into birth order, family dynamics, and how it affects you in adulthood. Plus, juicy listener dilemmas you don’t want to miss!!Join our Patreon: Patreon.com/ToniToldMe — new episodes drop every Friday!Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to toni@tonitoldmepod.com or slide into the
He AVOIDS me...when I'm on my period?!
Toni’s back, and this week we’re talking about something everyone experiences but hardly anyone wants to discuss… periods. From mood swings to cycle tracking, nothing is off limits as Toni dives into the realities of life on your period. And in Teatime with Toni, things get juicy: what would you do if your man started avoiding you every month? Join our Patreon: Patreo
From Gold Digger Accusations to Secret Wives
Toni and Producer Annisha are back with more real talk and even realer tea this week on Toni Told Me. From a workplace situationship that ended in gold digger accusations to a suspicious dating app match who may or may not have a whole wife at home, the dilemmas are messy! Plus, we’re switching the focus from red flags to the green ones we should actually be paying attention to. If you’ve ever que
Friendship Breakups: The Time My Friend Made a Shrine of Me
Friendship breakups can hurt just as much, if not more, than romantic ones. In this episode of Toni Told Me, Toni gets real about the grief of losing a friend and why sometimes the people who know us best can hurt us the most. Toni and Producer Annisha dive into tricky friendship dynamics, from workplace friendships that feel a little too controlling, to the childhood friend who kept crossing
My Mum Is Back! Wedding Tea, In-Laws & My Big Move
Mother’s Day is around the corner here in the UK, so to celebrate Toni's mum is back on the podcast! They're talking all about the wedding, family dynamics, in-laws and how she really feels about me moving to Houston, plus what it’s like becoming a grandmother of two. Before that, in Teatime with Toni, they help listeners through some tough dilemmas, from navigating a parent who disapproves o
Your Type Is The Problem!!
Choosing a partner can be a tricky process but what happens when you keep picking the same kind of person? Same person different font kind of vibe!! Is it a you problem, or is it a them problem? Toni weighs in and lets her listeners know it is in fact a YOU problem! Dilemmas are solved and truths are told in this week’s episode.Join our Patreon: Patreon.com/ToniToldMe — new episodes drop every Fri
Is Yearning Dead?
Is yearning dead… or are we just too cool to admit we want someone? This week on Toni Told Me, we’re talking all things longing, modern dating, “nonchalant” culture, and whether romance is slowly disappearing. Plus in Teatime with Toni, we’re getting into a couple of dilemmas...including a really shocking one about a dad and OnlyFans advice, and what it means when your partner admires other women
Your Gut Knew. You Just Didn’t Listen.
In this episode, we’re getting real about that little voice in your head we all try to ignore, especially when it comes to relationships. You know, the red flags that somehow look beige, the “he has potential,” the almosts, the “but he’s a good guy,” the money stress, the overlap, the shaky boundaries, and that comfy but risky feeling that makes confrontation feel impossible.Join our Patreon: Patr
But...I Treat You Well Everyday?
Valentine’s Day is coming… but is “I treat you well every day” really enough?In this episode of Toni Told Me, Toni dives into real conversations about love, commitment, and expectations. In Teatime With Toni, listener dilemmas unpack cultural pressure around marriage, waiting on commitment, and dating someone with emotional baggage. Then in Sisterhood Spotlight, Toni break
Grammy Wins & Real Talk with Kamille
Toni is joined by her sister-in-law, 2x Grammy Award-winning singer-songwriter and producer Kamille, for an honest chat about her journey in music, winning Grammys, navigating the industry, and balancing career, motherhood and marriage. Plus, it’s Teatime with Toni as Toni, Producer Annisha and Kamille get into your dilemmas, from wanting more in a relationship that ticks all the bo
US vs UK: The Differences Nobody Talks About
In this episode, we’re diving into life across the pond and what it’s really like living in the US compared to the UK. From culture and food to accents, social life, and even healthcare, I’m sharing all the reality checks, surprises, and subtle differences you won’t hear anywhere else. Plus, if you’re a Brit thinking about making the move, or just curious about life in America, this is y
From Miss to Mrs
It’s the second episode of Season 2, and this week Toni is giving us the full wedding debrief. From how the day went to what went wrong and what went right, no detail is spared and all the tea is well and truly spilled. As always, Toni is also solving your dilemmas in Teatime with Toni. This week’s listener questions cover everything from equal partnership vs. soft life, to the ultimate debat
Have You Missed Me? Toni Told Me Is Back
There’s been a wedding, a honeymoon, a move across the pond, and so much more, and Toni is ready to chat about it all with you in Season 2 of Toni Told Me!It may be a new season, but Toni and Producer Annisha are back doing what they do best: solving your dilemmas. From cheating partners to long-distance relationships, Toni serves up her best advice in this week’s Tea Time with Toni. And that’s no
Welcome to Toni Told Me with Toni Tone
Welcome to Toni Told Me, the cozy corner of the internet where real talk meets real tea with the internet's big sis, Toni Tone! Each episode Toni will dive into the everyday dilemmas you face - relationships, family, career choices and everything in between. Toni’s got your back and is serving up heartfelt advice. Whether you're feeling stuck, seeking guidance, or just want to share a laugh, take
Gone to Get Hitched
It’s the season finale of Toni Told Me — and your internet big sis is signing off in the most special way! In this final episode of Season 1, Toni spills all the tea on her wedding: from the first dance to the dresses, the food, and even the honeymoon plans. Of course, Producer Annisha is right there with her, and together they tackle your latest dilemmas in one last Teatime with To
No F*cks Given: A Sneak Peek
Toni’s back with something extra special this week! She’s giving her listeners an exclusive sneak peek of her brand-new book No F*cks Given — and yes, she even reads a little bit out loud so you can be the very first to hear it. Of course, it wouldn’t be an episode without Tea Time with Toni, where she and Producer Annisha dive head-first into your dilemmas! Got a dilemma of your own and
Simply Sayo talks Sickle Cell
September is Sickle Cell Awareness Month in the UK, and the internet’s big sis is joined by writer, poet, presenter, creative, and award-winning journalist Simply Sayo. As an NHS Blood & Transplant Ambassador and passionate advocate for the Black community, Sayo is leading a powerful year-long campaign, It Takes A Village, which aims to recruit 16,000 Black blood donors. In this episode,
Youngest Sibling Syndrome
We've touched on Eldest Daughter Syndrome (EDS)... but what about the youngest sibling? They don't always have it easy either and on this week's episode Toni is joined by her youngest sibling, her sister Tara. Tara touches on her experiences growing up and how she and Toni have worked on their relationship! Plus as Tara is Toni's maid of honour, together they solve your maid of honour dilemmas in
A Note To My Younger Self
This week on Toni is spilling the advice she'd give to her younger self — from taking risks and chasing big dreams to staying true, eating great food, and rocking whatever outfit feels right. Plus, in Tea Time with Toni, a listener shares what it’s like to feel overlooked in dating even after putting in the effort — and we get real about self-worth, confidence, and finding connection.Got
Cheating, Is It Ever Really Worth It?
After news of a cheating couple broke the internet in recent weeks, Toni Tone explores the realities of whether cheating is ever really worth it. There's a cheating themed dilemma in Tea Time with Toni and a deep dive into the topic in the Sisterhood Spotlight, so if you or anyone you know has experienced cheating, this is the episode for you.Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom?
Babies... at The Bachelorette?
Babies, bachelorettes, and best friends—Toni is diving into it all this week with her ride-or-die Carina by her side. In this special Tea Time with Toni, the dilemmas are all bachelorette themed (because Toni’s own celebration is just around the corner). From whether it’s ever okay to bring babies along, to what really makes a bachelorette unforgettable, nothing is off-limits. Plus, in the Sisterh
The Wedding Countdown: Toni Tone Shares Her Journey
With the countdown officially on until Toni says “I do,” she opens up about how she’s really feeling in the final stretch before the big day — from the excitement and anticipation to what’s still on the to-do list, and the moments she’s looking forward to most. As always, Toni and Producer Annisha are here to spill the tea and tackle your dilemmas in Tea Time with Toni — and this week, i
Identity Theft
Toni dives into the latest Love Island UK drama — and it's giving serious identity theft vibes. But is it imitation or admiration? Where's the line, and how do you really know when someone’s crossing it? Plus, as always, Toni and Producer Annisha are back for Tea Time with Toni, dishing out advice on your dilemmas. This week’s hot question: Should you keep holding strong t
How to Tell If He's the One
How do you really know he's the one? It’s a question many of us ask while dating. Is it the butterflies in your stomach—or is it something deeper that doesn’t show up right away? In this episode, your internet big sis shares the moment she knew her fiancé was the one, opening up about love, timing, and gut feelings. As always, Toni and Producer Annisha dive into your juiciest dilemmas du
So, You Wanna Be a Content Creator
Thinking about becoming a content creator but not sure where to start? It’s not always as easy as it looks. In this episode, Toni shares her best tips on how to get into the content game and start putting your work out there. Whether you're just curious or ready to dive in, this one's for you. Plus, in Tea Time with Toni, things get real when one listener asks: “Why do I only a
Potential vs. Potential… What Does That Even Mean?
Your internet big sis is getting real about potential — because let’s be honest, it can be a blessing or a trap. So how do you tell the difference and avoid falling for the wrong thing? Toni’s breaking it all down and dropping the gems. Plus, Producer Annisha and Toni solve some of your wildest dilemmas yet in Tea Time with Toni. Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Se
She Coaches Celebs… Now She’s Coaching YOU
Toni is joined by Celebs Go Dating’s very own Dr Tara for a no-filter chat on all things love, lust, and leveling up your dating life. From spicing up long-distance relationships to spotting red flags like a pro, Dr Tara is spilling all the tea. Plus, it's Tea Time With Toni — where your wildest, weirdest, and most heart-wrenching dilemmas get the big-sis wisdom they deserve.Got a dilemma of your
Loneliness: Let’s Talk About It
Loneliness — it’s something we all experience, and it’s a completely normal part of being human. With Loneliness Awareness Week starting here in the UK, Toni opens up about the feeling, shares a bit of her own story, and reminds us that we’re never as alone as we think. In Tea Time with Toni, she and Producer Annisha tackle your dilemmas with their usual heart and humour. Plus, Toni’s setting
Avoidant and Anxious Go Together Real Bad
Attachment styles — we all have them, and they can impact our relationships, for better or worse. It’s helpful to know which one you are, so you can better navigate how you connect with others. In this week’s episode, the internet’s big sis Toni breaks down the different attachment styles, how to tell them apart, and how you can even change yours. Producer Annisha and Toni also dive into
Get yourself a man that supports Arsenal
Toni is joined by Aurélie — a mum of three, author, and aspiring content creator — for a real chat about long distance relationships (something Toni knows all about). They’re sharing tips, laughs, and what actually helps when you’re miles apart. And of course, it’s not an episode without Tea Time with Toni, where they dive into your juicy dilemmas and spill a little tea along the way.Got
Wait... Am I the Self-Sabo?
Self-sabotage — why do we do it?! Toni dives deep into the habits that hold us back, with honest insights, real-life stories, and her signature humor. And of course, she’s tackling your trickiest dilemmas in Tea Time with Toni — no filter, just real talk.Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to toni@tonitoldmepod.com or slide into the DMs on Insta
Lightening the Load: Real Talk for Mental Health Week
In support of the UK's Mental Health Awareness Week, this special episode is dedicated to helping you navigate life’s challenges.Toni is joined by psychologist Dr. Jade to unpack your dilemmas, offer practical advice, and hopefully ease some of the mental load. Whether you're struggling or simply need a little clarity, you're not alone—and we’re here to help.If you or someone you know is finding t
Red Flags Aren’t Just for Dating
Not everyone deserves a seat at your table — and some are just there to eat. In this episode, Toni breaks down the biggest red flags in friendships and why being selective with your circle is essential. From spotting fake friends to checking your own behaviour, this is the real talk you didn’t know you needed. Plus, your juiciest dilemmas get answered in this week’s Tea Time with Toni — no filter,
April Theory: Why Breakups Bloom in Spring
April brings new beginnings...and sometimes heartbreak. Toni breaks down April Theory — why so many major changes (including breakups) seem to happen this month. She’s answering your breakup dilemmas and sharing her best tips to help you bounce back stronger than ever. New season, new you — let’s get into it.Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to toni@tonitoldmepod
The First Decade of Adulthood
You always have high expectations for your 20s—after all, they’re the first decade of adulthood. Toni and her guest Rocky unpack what that chapter of life really looks like. Does everyone actually have it all figured out? Is it everything it’s cracked up to be? Plus, in this week’s Teatime with Toni, they tackle a big dilemma: what do you do when you’re ready to start dating, but dating
You Can't Control Everything
Overthinking is the silent killer of productivity, happiness, and potential. It can leave you feeling stuck, overwhelmed, and mentally drained. In this episode, Toni gets real about her own struggles with overthinking and dives into why our minds spiral, how overthinking can show up in sneaky ways, and most importantly—how to stop it. Plus, she’s back with your listener dilemmas in this week’
Too Much?... Good.
Confidence feeling a little off-brand? Toni is joined by queen of confidence Tiwalola for a glam power hour of real talk, bold advice, and unapologetic energy. From body confidence to bossing up and selling your sparkle, no topic is off-limits. Got dilemmas? They’ve got glow-up solutions. Plus, Tiwa drops her golden rules for stepping into your spotlight.Got a dilemma of your own and need some big
Halitosis Heartbreak
Struggling to tell someone their breath stinks? Don’t worry—we’ve got you! Toni is joined by award-winning dentist Dr. Rhona to tackle your trickiest dilemmas. From ‘Turkey Teeth’ trends to the power of social media in dentistry, plus what it’s really like being a woman in the industry—this episode is packed with fresh insights (pun intended!).Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom
Mother's Day Special: Breaking Generational Cycles
As the saying goes, mums are always right. This week, Toni brings in her mum to help solve your dilemmas. Caught feelings for your FWB? Toni and her mum get to the bottom of it. They also dive into their powerful mother-daughter bond, breaking generational cycles, and share the life-changing lessons they've learned from one another. From love advice to family wisdom, this episode is packed with he
No Borders, Just Love
Interracial dating—it's a hot topic, and Toni is ready to dive right in! Ever wondered what it’s really like from someone who’s been there? Toni sits down with her friend Afua for a raw and unfiltered chat about her experiences in the world of interracial dating. And in ‘Teatime with Toni,’ they tackle your juiciest dilemmas—including the awkward reality of dating someone who sounds just like your
For Better or Worse: A Man’s Take
Toni’s getting married this year, and she’s on a mission to understand marriage—from a man’s perspective! Who better to spill the truth than her own brother, Tomi?They'll be diving into the drama: How would you feel if your partner’s ex kept inviting them out with their kid—but you weren’t on the guest list? Messy, right? Tomi and Toni are here to break it down and tackle your juiciest dilemmas!Go
You Matter Because You Exist
Ever wondered what it takes to live a truly happy life? Content creator and author David Larbi joins Toni to reveal how embracing happiness and vulnerability changed everything. Plus, drifting from a friend? They’re tackling your dilemmas in Tea Time with Toni—don’t miss it!If you or someone you know is struggling with mental health or having thoughts of suicide, you're not alone. Help i
Eldest Daughter Syndrome: The Struggle is Real
Eldest Daughter Syndrome is so real and it’s something Toni herself deals with. Toni gets in to the thick of it, how can it present itself, the pressure it puts on you and how it can affect relationships. If you’re an eldest daughter listen up as Toni shares her thoughts.Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to toni@tonitoldmepod.com or slide into the DMs on Ins
Fine Girls Do Finance
Struggling to get your finances in check? Toni’s got you covered—with a little help from finance expert Fis! This episode spills the tea on what to do when your ex owes you money but won’t pay up. Plus, Fis shares her top money tips in the Sisterhood Spotlight. Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to toni@tonitoldmepod.com or slide into the DMs on Instagra
Valentine's & Vulnerability
Toni’s back with her fiancé for a date night on the pod! They’re answering your dilemmas—like, what’s up if your partner doesn’t want to celebrate Valentine’s Day? Plus, they get real about why vulnerability matters and how it’s brought them closer.Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to toni@tonitoldmepod.com or slide into the DMs on Instagram @tonitoldmepod.Join o
What Do Men Really Think?
Toni is joined by her first-ever guest... her fiancé, Taiwo! Together, they dive into your relationship dilemmas. What would you do if your partner's parents didn’t like you? Plus, they discuss how long the talking stage is actually supposed to last.Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to toni@tonitoldmepod.com or slide into the DMs on Instagram @tonitoldmepod.
Beating January Blues
In this week’s episode of Toni Told Me, Toni is talking about how to overcome January Blues and feeling overwhelmed at the start of a new year. Plus, she’s diving into your dilemmas during Tea Time with Toni—including one question about seasonal depression and the fear of moving out of your parents house.Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to toni@tonitol
Engagement Tea
In this week’s episode of Toni Told Me, Toni is spilling the tea on her engagement journey and sharing all the behind-the-scenes details. Plus, she’s diving into your dilemmas during Tea Time with Toni—including one tricky situation: How would you feel if your best friend didn’t pick you as her Maid of Honour?Got a dilemma of your own and need some big-sis wisdom? Send it to toni@tonitol
Staying True To Yourself
It's the first ever episode of Toni Told Me and Toni wants you to get to know her a little bit more and of course she'll be helping you solve your dilemmas in Tea Time with Toni. Plus Toni talks all about staying true to yourself in the Sisterhood Spotlight.If you've got a dilemma and need some big sis advice, send it to toni@tonitoldmepod.com or head over to the podcast instagram page @tonitoldme
Welcome to Toni Told Me
Welcome to Toni Told Me, the cozy corner of the internet where real talk meets real tea with the internet's big sis, Toni Tone! Each episode Toni will dive into the everyday dilemmas you face—relationships, family, career choices and everything in between. Toni’s got your back and is serving up heartfelt advice. Whether you're feeling stuck, seeking guidance, or just want to share a laugh, take a
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